IcemanJB Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 So I've been talking with a girl I met online a couple months ago (I hate even admitting that). She is currently in her home state (IN), but will be driving through my city on her way back to school (MN) next weekend. We agreed to meet up as she drives through - but there's a catch. Her MOM is on vacation, and going with said girl to her apartment by school to visit. It's not like she said "is it ok if my mom comes along?" haha. If that were the case, I'd run for the hills. So how the heck do I deal with this? She called me a couple nights ago, and mentioned something to the effect of "my mom might go do her own thing"; but considering neither of them are familiar with the area, I don't see what she could do. Any suggestions?
Thornton Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 The wonders of the internet mean you can look up tourist information about an area you're unfamiliar with You could also advise on good touristy places to go. Perhaps your mum could help out and invite them both for food, then take her mum shopping or something while you two spend the day together. Alternatively her mum could go shopping or sightseeing on her own.
Bayern Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Find something a mother would be interested in and send her there for a while. I wouldn't recomend avoiding the mother altogether though. Try small doses when you can. I doubt you'll be getting into her pants too quickly as you haven't met. I don't know the nature of the relationship, though. Good luck, mate. Let us know how things go.
New Again Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Hm that blows - this might be too awkward for a first date, but I bet you'd win major brownie points with both the girl and her mom if you played tour guide to both of them - do a walking tour of your city or something like that.
Author IcemanJB Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 Hm that blows - this might be too awkward for a first date, but I bet you'd win major brownie points with both the girl and her mom if you played tour guide to both of them - do a walking tour of your city or something like that. This is kind of what I was thinking. I'd feel sort of weird sending the mom to go do something by herself; unless of course she suggests she could go do something. But that being said, any moms out there: if you were in an unfamiliar city, what sort of things would you have no problem doing yourself? Ok, that sounds like a ridiculous question...
New Again Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 This is kind of what I was thinking. I'd feel sort of weird sending the mom to go do something by herself; unless of course she suggests she could go do something. But that being said, any moms out there: if you were in an unfamiliar city, what sort of things would you have no problem doing yourself? Ok, that sounds like a ridiculous question... I think it really depends on the individual - and possibly what city you're in. Museums and shopping are two generic answers. From the OP though I kind of got the impression that the mom wants to spend time with her daughter? If you all went to a museum or public garden, that would be a great place all of you could go together, but the mom might feel comfortable wandering off on her own and meeting up with the two of you here and there, or at the end of the visit - but you're still in the same place and appear as though you're cool with the mom and trying to include everyone. Also, this is a good group thing, but might not be available in your city/resources. I dated a guy who's father is really into photography; he has like 4 or 5 really nice cameras - my bf and I got stuck hanging out with his family (dad and siblings), but we all took the cameras out to a park, his dad gave us a quick lesson with the cameras, and we all wandered off to take pics individually. It was a blast. I've done this type of date twice since then - once in my city and once when I was visiting my parents in the city I grew up in - I'm not sure how common this is, but some places rent cameras for not too much money, plus you end up with a CD of amazing pictures to remember the date.
Author IcemanJB Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 I know of a pretty neat botanical garden (maybe for the mom) - I like that idea New Again! Thing is, there's almost certainly some wedding party or something there on Sundays...and I'm not sure if the whole area is reserved or whatnot. Anyways, good idea. Any others?
Bayern Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Any speciality to your region? If so help them experience it. (Wisconsin perhaps has the best cheese, Texas some good steaks, Hawaii beaches blah blah)
Author IcemanJB Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 Well the microbrews here are fantastic, but they still would have 4 hours of driving ahead of them to get to MSP. Not sure if they'd want to do that. I'll no doubt take a stroll down State street with them (tons of cool shops and restaurants). Maybe something will catch the mom's eye! Either way, I'm not going to force the issue.
New Again Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Visiting microbreweries is one of my favorite date activities (it's a hobby of mine)! That's a great suggestion - samples are often not full servings, you don't have to finish a drink if you don't want to, and if the mom wants to try a couple, she doesn't have to try them ALL ya know....maybe suggest that to start, and then afterwards grab a late lunch and walk down State Street before they head out.
Author IcemanJB Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 Well today is the day! I haven't told her what we're going to do yet, but first we'll sit by the lake on a popular terrace area, enjoy a drink or two, and maybe take a stroll downtown after that. It's supposed to be about 78* and sunny today so I can't ask for better weather. I don't know yet if she and her mom are getting a hotel or anything, or if mom is tagging along, but this way it's fine either way. I don't want to jinx anything, but this is the calmest I've ever been before a first date. Obviously I'm a little excited/nervous, but not overwhelmingly. Wish me luck!
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