electricvanilla Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 So...I have been hanging out with this guy & he is absolutely great. Super charismatic. We do pretty much everything together. I have met his friends, family and he has become very close to me since we started hanging out in May. **Both 21** NOW the Problem: In June my best friend called me & said sum1 told her that I am no longer a virgin. I was outraged because it was not true & idk that just pissed me off. Well, long story short…my best friend is friends with this other girl who happens to be friends with the best friend of the dude I have been seeing. I confronted my dude (in person) & he said it wasn’t true and that the people who said it are probably just ‘hating’ on me. But I have this feeling he is lying because of the way he reacted when I brought it up. & I really don’t see how else this situation would come up. I also confronted his best friend & of course he kept playing dumb. Right after we spoke, he called the girl he told in the beginning and cursed her out because I had found out. He is now no longer her friend & she is not really taking to me anymore bc I went and talked to the guy.(I nvr said any names…but apparently he only told her this ‘secret’) IDK what to do now??! It’s not like the guy was my boyfriend or anything but, I have grown quite close to him & idk I had a great time being with him. He is always so nice to me & now I wonder if he just does that to make up for what he said? Maybe he said this to be cool among his friends(he is not a virgin though) OR so his friends dont try to hit on me??? **My friend found this out around the last week of MAY. I was told about it the 2nd week of JUNE** I have hung out with him 2 times since then. What should I do? What do you guys think?
westrock Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Well, long story short…my best friend is friends with this other girl who happens to be friends with the best friend of the dude I have been seeing. Too much opportunity for broken telephone here. You cannot control what other people will say about you. The only thing that matters is that you know what really happened or didn't happen. What anyone else says does not matter.
Bejita463 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Well, long story short…my best friend is friends with this other girl who happens to be friends with the best friend of the dude I have been seeing. I had to read that 4 times before I was sure I knew what you were even saying here. If this rumor followed such a convoluted path it would not be unreasonable to assume that "we held hands" may have transmogrified into "I tagged her reverse chandelier style. "
Bayern Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Maybe he is scared of losing you if you find out the truth. In a way he may not have wanted it as much as you do. It seems he still cares for you and your feelings, so maybe try to forget about it, maybe?
Author electricvanilla Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 I had to read that 4 times before I was sure I knew what you were even saying here. If this rumor followed such a convoluted path it would not be unreasonable to assume that "we held hands" may have transmogrified into "I tagged her reverse chandelier style. " That is quite true. Lol, I guess I am just overreacting. I feel that my name has been tainted. ~Thank you for the response.
Author electricvanilla Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 Maybe he is scared of losing you if you find out the truth. In a way he may not have wanted it as much as you do. It seems he still cares for you and your feelings, so maybe try to forget about it, maybe? Wanted what? I have put this issue aside, but my friends continue to bring it up, bc they want me to do the whole 'mess up his car'..'throw a drink at him' lol, I think that's kinda lame. Apparently I am not reacting as insane as one should? Even so, I have decided to just let it sllllliiiiiide.
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