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WTF?!!! I'm feeling teary! Help!

I'm normally upbeat about my situation - my ex wants to come back, a lot of men are after me, I'm surrounded by family and friends who love me, I've fallen in love with someone new who inspires me - but tonight is somehow heavy and frightening. I keep looking at my phone. I even called my ex's mom to talk about his situation in Berlin. Just to talk.

 

I even want to call his brother (who's been in love with me for years). I want to talk to people. TO ANYONE! After having an active social life this past 4 months, IT KILLS ME TO STAY AT HOME.

 

It was a decision of mine because I want to settle down a bit and improve myself so that the new guy can consider me someone he can bring home to mama, but omg the pervasive loneliness I feel being at home like this while everyone is out is staggering. IT HURTS.

 

Last night I had an old friend call me and we spoke for 6 hours on the phone, but tonight I have nobody. They are all out partying. I am home. In tears.

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ive found that no matter how determinedly you try to keep busy and reach out, there are ****** times like this, when everyone is away somewhere and youve done all your chores...distract yourself. play music. sing. draw. get dressed up for no reason and go see a movie. go to a salsa class. bake something. Just close your laptop now!

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also have you told your new bf as well as your friends that you are still healing? then at least you won't have to pretend to be fine when you're in their presence (I dont know if this is what you do just guessing).

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F_C, you're going through emotional mood swings like the weather. Have you considered actually settling down a bit, push most of the things that bother you out of your mind, and actually tell yourself tonight I want to just be by myself?

 

When a person tries to do alot of things at once, they can start panicking once they have nothing to do. It's emotionally damaging because you're projecting alot of things that you find unsatisfying onto someone else, for ex, your new guy, because he gives you hope to want to change yourself. But imagine if he weren't there?

 

From personal experience, seeking out other people to get my mind off things, doesn't necessarily help, they only build more stress. It's similar to running away. Best to take things slow, like letting go of certain things before you venture off into another.

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