Eclectic Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 After 30 years of marriage and a demanding career, with two grown and successful children, I am asking myself what I want to do with the rest of my life. I am 57, professional, athletic, and moderately social. My wife is 59, recently retired from a professional position, and somewhat introverted. She has a baccalaureate and I have a doctorate. The spark is gone from our marriage. Yes, we do have sex. Yes, she does keep the house and we live comfortably. Yes, she takes care of herself. But she doesn’t talk. She doesn’t have ideas. When she does have something to say, it is pretty shallow. She has few friends and most of her interaction is with our daughter. I find myself bored, emotionally unsatisfied, and quite indifferent about staying married. It seems that we are more roommates than spouses. I think I would have divorced by now, except for concern that the kids would blame me if they thought I dumped their mom. A couple years ago I had a brief fling that I allowed my wife to suspect but not discover. I think I was secretly hoping that she would dump me. It didn’t happen. The question(s): Are my feelings common? Should I move on or just resolve to maintain the situation? Is it better to be in an unsatisfying marriage or to be single and unattached
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 firstly why did u marry her from the beginning if u knew all of that...secondly TALK 2 her about it dont just give up...u cant just say the spark is gone then dont even bring the matches doesnt make sense.
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