Ashantix Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 So how do you get past having your spirit broken while you still live with the ex? The ex is also doing online chatting with the new romance in those soft mushy tones that I can hear even with headphones on and in the next room. I feel like I will never trust of love again. Cheated on for the 2nd time man I must be doing something wrong. This has been the longest day as I found about that there was another person in the picture even though at this point it is an internet relationship. How do you stop wanting the person more than anything? How do you put out the desire and the love? Someone help!!
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 there is no stoppin the desire u feel how u feel i know it sux when u live with an ex when is the lease up....y did yall break up? just be cordial and move forward go talk to someone else or date take ur mind off of ex
Author Ashantix Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 I am trying to get a place as I am living here on borrowed time. Hopefully I can be out in the next two weeks. It is just hard when you aren't the one who initiated the break-up and aren't ready to move forward. I don't like being forced. This kinda of came out of the blue after 4 years together.
wow123 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 You mentioned you think you are doing something wrong. I wouldn't beat yourself up. I believe there are many people out there that can't be fully happy with just one person. They love the attention that others give and choose the excitement of someone new over what they have. We all know the most exciting times in a relationship are when we are getting to know the other person. Some people just can't live without it.
broken_promises Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I was in the same boat about a month ago... we were breaking up, was looking for a place, and he was already starting to chat/focus on his new crush/interest on Facebook. I remember one night we had a long, sad conversation and I was crying still on the couch and he said he had to go upstairs and "work" for a bit. (He works from home, so this was a common occurance.) So, later I checked his history and he had gone upstairs and posted stuff on her FB page while I was downstairs crying. To me, this is the part of the breakup I am still having a lot of anger about. I just remember thinking, "WTF?! He can't respect me enough to just WAIT until I'm gone? He knows I'm leaving and yet, he has to start some new fantasy crap before I am gone?" It was just so disrespectful. As is your situation. You just have to try to live through this awkward, hellish time right now until you find your place. I assume you can't stay with a friend or family member until you find a place? I know that, for me, I just wanted to get every last second I could with my ex before I was gone and that is why I put up with staying there even though I knew he was already talking to this crush on FB. It felt so hurtful and it has actually done more harm than good for me. I wish I had left and stayed with my mom, but as I said, I was desperate for the last few scraps of his attention.
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