starkisser Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 For starters I am new here. I am just really looking for some advice. Me any my boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 years. We dont live very far, only an hour away. I am turning 19 and he is 21. I saw him once when we first met (on myspace) for a few hours, and 2 other times for a couple hours as well. I recently just spent a week with him and it was the most amazing week of my life. He is a really amazing guy and has made me experience feelings i've never felt with anyone else. I know we are going to last a while even if we dont make it in the end. The only problem is now that I spent a week with him it is tearing me apart because now i really want to spend alot more time with him. I want a normal relationship with him now, I dont want to just see him every couple of months, after all we are only an hour away! His problem is his family. Im his 1st "real" gf and his nervous about asking his parents if i can spend a weekend at their house. I tried telling him hes gona be 22 years old, hes a grown man and he just needs to get over it. I told him if he really wants to be with me this is what he has to do. But he told me it will happen he just wants time, he feels like Im pressuring him into it, which I am but I just wanna spend time with him. I just need some advice as to how to cope with this because its really bothering me. I dont want to break up with him, I know we can last for a while were great togeather, that week was absolutly amazing, but its upsetting because I feel like it will never happen again. Any suggestions?
Lucky_One Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 You're only an hour apart, and you have only seen each other for a few hours three times, plus this most recent week? That sounds a bit.....different. I am guessing that neither of you have a car? Otherwise, it would simple to just date like "regular" people and let his parents get to know you before you go stay there for a weekend. Is there public transportation like buses or trains? Friends with cars? A parent's car you can borrow? He may not be comfortable with you coming to stay at his house, period. His parent's home may not be somethng that he considers suitable for overnight guests, or there could be a space problem. His family could have some type of dysfunction that makes him nervous about your being there for extended periods. I would try seeing each other much more, but no overnights - just days and regular dates - before you insist on being invited to his home.
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