lovebound Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Im just curious. I had this guy who chase me so hard for about a year. I was leery of getting involved because I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and was not sure becuase i did not know him well, and was scared to get hurt, but he was persistent. Over that time, he started growing into me, shortly before he moved to new york, i dont know what happened but we got a lot closer, very close, we kissed, spent lot of time together for a week, but he had already made all arrangements to move for a job situation and had to go. we are still friends and talk on the phone and facebook, and i am visiting him in ny next month at the end of a business trip for 3 or 4 days. He is very attracted to me and I am very attracted to him, and we talked romantically, though there is no commitment, of course, becuase we got closer at the very end and there was no time to grow more into it. I miss him and he has told me the same. My question is, have you had a situation where you have someone in a long distance relationship like that, and did it work or evolve into anything more? People say that it is only a matter of time and then we will fade away, and will never amount to nothing? But has there been anyone out there in this situation and did it work at all? Just curious.
SM22 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Well i have a friend who is in a long distance relationship with a guy for the last 4 years...its amazing that they are together so long. They talk like 5 times a day and share everything. The trust they have is amazing....I guess it depends on your age when you meet. They were 18 and 19 and met online. She flys to see him like twice a year and he comes down to see her about 4 times a year...they are planning on getting married. I guess when you have the right connection then you will do anything to make it work. She is extremely happy with him even with the distance 2000 miles away.
New Again Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 IMO/E yes they can work - but eventually someone has to move. One success story: An old roommate of mine traveled a lot for work - while she was away at a conference once she met and totally hit it off with a guy she met there. I forget exactly how far away from each other they lived, but I think it was something like 6 hours apart. Eventually they became exclusive and dated for a year - they only saw each other about once a month. My friend decided that she really loved this guy, and didn't want to waste any more time dating someone that it wasn't going to work out with - so something had to change. She tried to get a job near him; it didn't work out. So, he decided to get a job near her (he had more flexibility within his field); she moved out and they got an apartment together, because she didn't feel she could ask him to move to a new place where he didn't know anyone etc. without making that aspect easier for him (she hadn't wanted to live with a guy before getting married). A year later and they're still together...
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