JustWords Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 They say second chances come but once in a lifetime and third chances are a charm or three strikes you're out. However, I've jumped in the rabbit hole and I'm falling desperately. It's been a long road to get here. Things have been great; however, he's still working through his emotional issues and setbacks. I've been more supportive than I probably should be. I give him much latitude and never indicate when something is bothering me. He had reservations about his freedom being taken away, I'm not smothering in the least. He spends his weekends with his friends at the beach, it's fine, I say "have a nice weekend, call me when you get back" Of course, this bothers me, but I'm trying to be understanding of his feelings. He came over for dinner Monday, things were great. I mentioned something about the weekends and said something to the effect of wishing he could just spend a couple weekends with me here and there. He takes things very literally, and for historical purposes, the other two opportunities I've given him to get this right, the slightest conflict and he usually flies off the handle and just ends things right then. He left my place upset Tuesday morning, but wouldn't talk about it. All he said was he felt "yelled at" He was away Tuesday and Wednesday, Thursday he emailed me and said he was going to go do his own thing this weekend and needs to clear his head. At first I was ok with this. But now I'm bordering on extremely angry and not knowing what I should do. I responded by saying I understood and needing a few days to cool off was fine. I have not heard from him, and quite honestly, after all the BS I've put up with from him over these past seven months of trying to work on things with him, now finally having a relationship and being cast aside like this. I can't handle it. I'm angry because I've been nothing but supportive to his feelings and concerns. I've been there for him while he's been sick and upset. Now, here I am... alone, waiting. No phone call, feeling horrible. I feel like he should at least call or be here with me. I feel like he's taking a different approach by taking the weekend and not just ending things as he did in the past, so yes, I'm grateful. However, I'm hurt. I don't know what it all means?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 So he was giving YOU the third chance at a relationship with him? I don't know. It kind of sounds to me like the guy is done having a relationship with you. He doesn't want any kind of pressure put on him whatsoever. I'm sorry, but that's just not the way things work. Why should he get HIS needs met, but not you? Be grateful that he threw a final temper tantrum. Hopefully he won't come back. And if he does - just ignore the phone. You've got better things to do.
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