Sbrizio Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 3weeks+ after the breakup, i broke NC once this week by sending her an email. It was a good email but i was just professing my feelings once again. She hasn't replied. I know that i need to stick with NC, but sometimes, especially at WE, i start toying with the idea of sending her a message, or calling her. I think it's dangerous to even start along this road, because it gets more and more difficult to brake then and revert back to "rationality" I just started to type down a sms, but i managed to stop. Funny thing, i already deleted her number, but i think i would be able to find it somehow if i really was looking for it. I'm tired to have to keep my guard up everytime. Is anyone experiencing the same? What are your ways to overcome these thoughs??
bitteorca Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 you sent her an email about your feelings etc and she hasn't replied. And now you presumably feel worse than before you sent it. That should be motivation enough to stick to NC surely?
Thaddeus Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 3weeks+ after the breakup, i broke NC once this week by sending her an email. It was a good email but i was just professing my feelings once again. She hasn't replied. And she probably won't. There's a time to share feelings and a time to shaddap. NC is the time to keep your feelings to yourself (regardless of what Oprah or Dr Phil says). Need a distraction? Go for a walk. Get your bicycle out and go for a ride. Paint my house (it needs it). Change the oil in your car. And get off LS for a while. Anything that's completely and totally unrelated to memories of your ex is a good distraction.
Author Sbrizio Posted July 18, 2009 Author Posted July 18, 2009 Thanks for you replies. Bitteorca: not really. I sent it because i was feeling even worse than now, but, i knew that the temporary relief was short-timed. I've not lost my dignity, though, but i would if i contact her once more. Thaddeus: you are perfectly right. I'm trying to hit more the life, doing more sport, seeing more friends, i'm getting a motorbike . Still, some moments it seems everything is empty and senseless without her. I know it's an illusion though. As you said, there's a time to share feelings, and one to shut-up.
mr.dream merchant Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Yeah Sbrizio, I was in your situation a while ago. When they don't reply, its them kindly telling you they do not care about you, or how you're feeling. So its best to just keep your feelings to yourself, or share them with a friend - but not with her. NC may not seem like a good method of healing, but it helps. While your in this NC, you have to keep yourself busy. That truly determines how fast you heal. Thoughts of her and missing her do not mean you aren't over her. Remember that.
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