womansintution Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Just looking for some opinions regarding romantic chemistry. Here are my questions. 1. How common is romantic chemistry? 2. Is it always mutual? 3. Is it possible to ignore it? 4. Do you think there's a link between romantic chemistry and a possible soulmate? I personally have a hell of a time finding romantic chemistry. As a matter of fact, I think I've only found it 3, possibly 4 times in my life. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks
SummerLady Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Just looking for some opinions regarding romantic chemistry. Here are my questions. 1. How common is romantic chemistry? 2. Is it always mutual? 3. Is it possible to ignore it? 4. Do you think there's a link between romantic chemistry and a possible soulmate? I personally have a hell of a time finding romantic chemistry. As a matter of fact, I think I've only found it 3, possibly 4 times in my life. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks I do not think romantic chemistry is common. I would think there are times when its not mutual but than it would not be what it should. To me a soulmate is a match on every level and romantic chemistry is one of those levels. I completely agree with you, I found it even less. I would say twice. I am with someone that I think is my soul mate and I could feel the chemistry, I knew what it was going to be like when I kissed him and be with him and only had that 1 other time. Its not common but you can find it, you just have to look around. I never thought I would find it again and I did...Keep looking.....Good Luck
annieo Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Just looking for some opinions regarding romantic chemistry. Here are my questions. 1. How common is romantic chemistry? 2. Is it always mutual? 3. Is it possible to ignore it? 4. Do you think there's a link between romantic chemistry and a possible soulmate? I personally have a hell of a time finding romantic chemistry. As a matter of fact, I think I've only found it 3, possibly 4 times in my life. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks 1. very 2. no 3. yes, but it's hard if you're the one feeling it 4. hell, yeah! Are you feeling some chemistry? Doesn't mean it's a soulmate connection. Why do you want to know?
annieo Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 It also depends on the extent of daddy issues. ??? or mommy issues, clearly.
Author womansintution Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 Thanks all. I guess my views vary slightly from some of the posters, but I wanted your opinions, and that's what I'm getting, so thanks again. I asked because I've found it, after a very long time. I refuse to enter a relationship without it, which is why I've been single for the last 5 years. Now I'm afraid that I'll never find it again. I don't think chemistry is very common, at all. These highs are amazing, and the tension is ridiculous. However, the person I have this unbelievable chemistry with is, you guessed it, married. Soooo, I digress. For the record, no one has been, or plans to be, unfaithful. I'm not sure I understand the mommy/daddy issues posts?
Sam Spade Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 ??? or mommy issues, clearly. Yes. ****ed up fathers can just as easily lead to cultivating emotionally unstable women with unrealistic expectations and obsessions of romance, as ****ed up mothers can lead to cultivating emotionally guarded men with seemingly little ability to connect emotionally on this level.
Els Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Yes. ****ed up fathers can just as easily lead to cultivating emotionally unstable women with unrealistic expectations and obsessions of romance. Am I misreading your post? What does 'unrealistic expectations and obsessions of romance' have to do with waiting for someone whom you feel romantic chemistry with to marry, or feeling 'on that level' with very few people in their lives? Some people 'connect' with many people, and also some have many relationships but perhaps have never had that chemistry before. Just because you are one of them, doesn't mean that you should straightaway judge someone who has had fewer men whom she felt chemistry towards. 'Chemistry' very rarely, if ever, has anything to do with 'expectations'. And where does the obsession part even fit into this thread? To answer the OP's Qs: 1. Depends on the person. Not common for me 2. No 3. Difficult 4. Definitely
2sure Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I dont think its easy to find and I think you are right to not settle for a relationship without it. The thing is, I dont think its something that just happens. I think you have to truly have your heart open to it.
Hotchocolate Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yes. RC exists and is the one ingredient I couldn't miss when I was dating. HOWEVER, I think it can easily be a one way street and also fool you into thinking something is there when it is really your state of mind. Based on small information, it's easy to project your wants/needs onto someone else without really knowing who they are, which can drive chemistry.
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