why isnt he out my head yet?

[xxSRMxx]

I havent posted in a while. Some of u know my situation, some dont.

I split up with my first love two years ago, we was together nearly 3 years. However, i have found I bounced back alot quicker when i split with my first love who i shared alot more with than my current ex. How weird. I mean they say u never forget ya first love, but mine is pretty much dead to me.

 

The current ex i have (the reason i post on here) I wasnt with for half as long etc etc. Yet he is still firmly there in my head. Even tho i have done everything possible 2 try and forget him. I've got a new job, made some FANTASTIC new friends who ave made me feel wonderful, i spoil myself with clothes etc. Im lookin hot! But hes still there, even tho we dont talk.

I feel like i should be forgetting him but im not.

 

I even started dating a guy, i was lying in bed with the new guy just thinking about my ex, comparing the sex, conversation, everything. I felt pretty bad so im not dating him nemore. Do I just ride it out??

[ON MY OWN]

I am currently feeling some of what your feeling. IMO 95 percent of relationships that end have ended for a reason and should remain over. It is for the best and can cause much more hurt if reopened. I fed into my ex and agreed to reopen as he continued to go back and forth and kill my heart. Some extremely painful lessons learned that could have been avoided.

 

Trust me you, I would NEVER go back or play the game again which is too hard to get passed. Not to speak when it is right I will not want to leave the new person. I personally have found it is a great gift to myself to give myself some time alone, true healing time.

 

This time next year I hope I will have plenty of posts to help others to get passed where I am currrently at now. I have been trying to help, although I admit to having some posts still for continuing support/help which is very much helping contribute to my healing process. We must keep in mind it is a process that takes time that we sometimes need to remind eachother of from time to time.

 

Good luck in your healing! The choice is yours, however remember to be truthful to yourself when all is said and done. Drama doesnt do anyone any good ever. It is good to hear what your heart is telling you, at the same time dont let your heart override true logic/common sense or intuition.

 

As far as your title, I have no idea and wished I did!

 

Take care. ~ OMO ~

[Marina09]

OMG I can relate soooo much to your situation!!! I broke up with my first love 3 years ago, and although it was hard at the beginning, it wasn't as nearly hard as this recent break up... May be because I found a new boyfriend really quick, actually my recent ex was the rebound, but he became much more than that, I was with him for 2 years in which I experienced everything with him. It's been already 6 months since the break up, I've done things I've never done before, party, dance, go to new places, meet a lot of new people, I have more than one reason to be happy (trust me GOOD reasons), but yet I'm not completely happy. When I do something new or something good happens to me I think about him, what he would say, etc. Even when important stuff happen in the world I think what would be his reaction, like MJ's death, and the swine flu. It's so hard to me, and I feel so bad because 6 months should be enough time already to get over somebody. Back in April I thought I was totally over him, but then stuff happened that showed me I'm not over him at all!! And about dating I haven't found anyone that calls my attention even a little, my first love is back at the scene but I don't like him as nearly as I did, and he's done a lot of things to get me back but I don't feel that would be right because I still love my recent ex. I hope this all goes away fast, I've had enough suffering for this year!!!

[EmperorR]

Feel the same way been a year, dated other girls but this cheating ex is sitll on my mind.