herewegoga Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Ok there is this man I dated very briefly for 2 months about a year ago. We had fun together and went out every couple of weeks to dinner/ movie, baseball game, etc. Nothing intimate ever other than a quick kiss goodnight. I like him quite a lot and decided to "up the ante" so to speak and said something at the end of an email about talking about how much I wanted to kiss him. He responded, very quickly by the way, that although he enjoyed spending time with me, he didn't see it going anywhere romantically and didn't want to waste my time. Thus we stopped seeing each other. Months pass and I get an email wishing me a merry Christmas, a few more random emails over the next couple of months, each to which I responded politely but nothing more than that.........then a few more weeks pass and he sends me an email inviting me to a concert and telling me how much he would like to see me. Seriously? WTH?? We chat on the phone and email a bit more in the time leading up to the concert..........he tells me several times how much he is looking forward to seeing me.......BAM the concert is rescheduled! We both seem disappointed and he ask me out to dinner instead. Meet him for dinner, have a great time, talk, laugh, jsut as great as it was before. At the end of the meal we hug and he says he had a great time "keep in touch." OOOKAYYYYYYY??? I emailed him and thanked him for dinner, kept it light and friendly, etc. I hear nothing, no phone call nothing. Then about 4 days later he sends me a fairly lengthy chatty email in which he refers to our dinner as a "date" and telling me what a great time he had and how wonderful I looked, etc. I'm uncertain about the whole thing after last time. I like him a great deal and don't know if Iwant to head down the "friends" path again. After ending things before would a guy initiate contact again KNOWING how I felt if he still wasn't interested??
Left in a Lurch Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Chances are he is in a slump or isn't seeing anyone and knows you want him so he is getting a little ego bump. Learn from history, don't let him pull you in again because he will do the same thing as before and you'll end up wondering why you didn't see it coming. That's whats coming and you pretty much know it.
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