phillyman Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 okay so a couple months ago me and my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up during a stupid argument over nothing really. we were both deeply in love and cared about each other more than anything and had so much fun together..oh and we are both 20 years old. the argument just about who was driving to dinner, she said she would then she had to give her bro her car and she didnt have her car that day. anyways i got mad i had to drive and we just argued over nothing (we've broken up before a couple times but only for like a week or a couple days lol) then during the argument shes like im done i'm sick of all this arguing i am so done with you. couple days later she says she wasnt serious, she just thought we needed a break because we hung out with each other like every second we could almost, we even work together. and that we were just arguing all the time over the stupidest things her friends were upset they always got blown off for me and were getting mad at her that the only time my gf tried to talk to them was when me and her were in an argument. so she told me she just wanted a break for a while to catch up with here friends (i know it was nothing more than that, i trust her, shes a good person) we still talked on the phone all the time like before bed, texted thruout the day and such for about a month..basically we both just started getting back in touch with our friends..i knew my friends as well thought i was blowing them off for the past year. anyways about a month of that we were supposed to hang out, i was going to go to her house to watch a movie and eat and then she texted me saying her one friend who has been having depression problems asked to hang out and she wanted to be there for her...at the time i thought maybe there was another guy or maybe not, just the fact that we were supposed to hang out and she canceled on me made me mad. i said stuff like that f***ed up blah blah and called her an ass and just stuff like that. at the time i had just missed her and was really looking forward to hanging out, i just over reacted...now that i look at the whole situation i know deep down shes an honest girl. well later that night i got drunk with my guy friends and she had sent me a message saying she missed me. i was drunk and got mad at that because idk, i was just drunk and confused. i had asked one my friends to send me a picture of his girlfriend and he sent 1 to my phone. i forwarded it to her and said i have this now and i dont need you. (it was mean but all that was going thru my drunk head was that she had broken up with me, then ditched me) for a few weeks she just tells me how much she hates me, and how awful of a person i am. i do nothing but apologize and say i was wrong. i had flowers and a letter and a little gift waiting for her at work. when i saw her she thanked me and and said it meant a lot to her. we slowly start talkin a little at work, kinda casual talking...we'd talk for 10 minutes and share some laughs then shed remmeber what i did and get mad and just tells me how im a mean person. so we finally start talking as friends at work and getting on somewhat good terms, we'll talk but shell still bring up how i hurt her and tell me everything just isnt magically alright. i talked to her at work whenever we worked together and i'd call her maybe once every few days and we'd talk just casually, and share some laughs, and she would still bring up the situation to remind me then shed get all upset...then i would try to change to subject. but she said that she wasnt going to get back with me, because i hurt her. she was very insistent. i cried to her on the phone for a couple days saying i was sorry, and asked to meet up to talk and we did and i cried some more apologizing. she still insisted she was done. she said she just wants to be friends. so later i tell her i'm going to be quitting my job because it was too hard working with her. and she kinda was like 'why ur such a girl' or 'quit over reacting'...almost like she didnt want me to quit. i didnt yet quit. but over the passed week we have been 'friends'...talkin at work, shell answer when i call, etc last night i called her and said i missed her and that i missed laying in bed with her, kissing her, and it got really sexual and she was saying how she missed being intimate with me, and that she couldn't ever be intimate with anyone else but me, and that how passionate everything we did together felt. we talked dirty for about 10 minutes, then she said ' i have to go get something to eat im hungry'..i think she thought of this whole situation and didnt wanna give in and she wanted to stand her ground of not wanting me back. then today we talk on the phone and shes back to not wanting to be anything but friends, and shes insistant on it. a week ago i asked her to see a movie with me..she was hesitant but said fine, just as friends tho, no touching, kissing, etc...that night happens to be tonight, ill see how it goes. she keeps informing me it is not a date, and that she doesnt want to lead me on. i dont know whether she is playing hard to get, she has in the passed kinda, or does she really JUST want to be friends. we were so deeply in love i really cant see her not wanting to be with me..everything we did was really passionate and affectionate it, thats the way she is. idk though, shes a really sensitive girl and what i did made her cry that whole night it happened, then people told me she cried all at work the next day. idk if shes trying to pay me back, or she really is serious about wanting to be just friends. update: shes at the gym with her friend when i called and said we'd probably have to pick a later movie she wasnt sure when she was gonna be done. knowing her she is kinda trying to pretend like she doesnt wanna go, but i really beleive she does. i kinda joked and said have you worked your gluteus maximus yet? she laughed and said yeah. so im just hoping she doesnt cancel on this whole movie thing
boogieboy Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Shes gonna cancel. Stop trying to be with her, give her space, and let her miss you. You should tell her she cant contact you until shes ready to get back together. If you keep hanging with her when she "says" she doesnt want to be together with you, you will push her away more. Dont do it!
Author phillyman Posted July 18, 2009 Author Posted July 18, 2009 well we are planning to leave soon. she asked if i wanted to go to applebees before hand. i'll report back with any new news after wards
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