Gf cant control her anger now we have 2 week old daughter and split up 2 days

[mikey1978]

GIRLFRIEND KICKS OFF AND GOES INTO A RAGE IF SHE DOES’NT GET HER WAY OVER THE SMALLEST THINGS. HAD TO CALL POLICE OUT

Since I met my gf she seemed very inpatient and wanted to know everything! And be with me all the time. Which I didn’t mind. She seemed to show off a lot at first and be a little mouthy- saying showy off things which didn’t make her sound to great. I had a talk to her about this and she was a lot better! No showing off.

Throught the rest of the relationship she has been very protective and untrusting. Wanting to know what im doing all the time through out the day for example if I went to b&Q store to pick something up and I was an hour when would be phoning me before I returned asking where I was and why it’s taken me so long. She wouldn’t believe that it has taken me that long due to traffic. She also checked my phone more than once a day. Constantly asking me who these numbers were on my recents list. Sometimes I couldn’t remember and it would cause more questions and hassle, then I would remember it was the taxi company or my friend calling from someones phone.

This went on for a while and recently it’s not been as bad. No rages with punching and screaming going on that much. After 6 months its kind of like every 3-6 weeks when the rages would occur. What I mean by an event of rage is for example. One evening she asked me to write her a nice message on her facebook telling her I love her etc… I was not feeling in the mood to write such things, so I kind of changed the subject hoping she would forget it. I do love her and tell her all the time. 5 mins later have you wrote my message she says. I try to ignore again. 10 mins later. I told her that I didn’t feel like it and that I shouldn’t be forced to do something and I love you very much and that I tell you all the time. This then kicked off and things excalated to a rage. She was screaming horrible things to me swearing a lot and slamming doors. Punching me hard in the body. The rages get to the state of me leaving the house for her to calm down but this makes her worse and she comes in to the street screaming verbal abuse.

It’s like if she doesn’t get what she wants straight away she will go crazy no matter how small a thing it is.

We had a little baby girl 2 weeks ago and 2 days later I told her that her mum was interfering a little and explained I had spoken to her. She saw this straight away as a personal attack and started! I went for a walk after having taken enough verbal abuse in front of my sister and mother. While I was away my mum phoned me to return. I got back to my sister crying down the road, she said my girlfriend was swearing at my mum in rage and was close to hitting her. My mum drove off. I talked to my girlfriend for a couple of hours. Now this is strange because she burst out in to tears saying my family hates her now and that shes a horrible person and she didn’t mean anything she said. Basically all the usual stuff I have herd many times before. Then after all the apologising she will kind of blame me and my family saying my mum should understand I was in labour 2 days ago and that its my fault also for causing the argument. My mum is in bits having my girlfriend telling her she was a stupid bitch and to stab me in the neck with a knife and kill me.

It gets worse! I call my mum and tell everyone to forget what happened lets just move on, it’s a happy time with my daughter being born 2 days ago. To follow are short talks with my girlfriend about my family, again she is saying that my mum should be grown up and understand why it happened and that she didn’t mean it.

My girlfriend text my mum about the avon, the response was, I thought you had the book? If not then no! because there were not a kiss on the end of the message my gf came up to me saying see your mum doesn’t like me she’s being funny with me. At this point I said I don’t want to know! If you have a problem with her then fine but I don’t want to argue about it. After what you said to her last week you have to wait for her to be ok. Things escalated and doors slammed even though I repeatedly told her I didn’t want to argue. She got a taxi with our 2 week old baby and went home to her mums.

All throught these episodes her mother is always like, Why cant I be a man and take responsibility and my mum is the grown adult and should realise it’s because she s tired. Her mum gives her the comfort but all I see is her telling my gf that’s what shes doing is right/normal and ok.

Any help or comments very much welcome. Im so concerned to have my daughter in the hands of my gf and her mother.