hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 i have been thru hell this last month and a half i could rarely stick to NC kept checking her phone records,etc. and recently found out that guy has chillin over her house last nite. she broke up with me then next day went over this guys house(WTF??). we have gone on a date which was wonderful and she said she wants to do it again but she is with this guy which really makes me upset. i am in love with her and i still want her back but not ready emotionally to take control. even though i assume, that she has slept with this guy i want her back but i know itz not up to me itz on her..what shoudl i do? i am doin NC starting today complete cutoff see her at gym but if do will only speak and keep it short so wont be rude.
SweetyBear Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 My suggestion is to give up your hope. It's hard and it hurts really bad. The best thing for me is accepting it and to visualize my ex being very clearly bothered when he thinks of me or when he receives any kind of contact from me. I realize you're not actually contacting your ex, but imagine her response were she to find out that you're accessing her messages and monitoring her phone calls and stuff. Really imagine it. Would she think oh, he loves me so much to be so interested in what I'm doing? No. She would think you're acting crazy and be even happier she's not with you. Respect her decision not to be with you and respect yourself enough to move on and be happy without her.
boogieboy Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 we have gone on a date which was wonderful and she said she wants to do it again but she is with this guy which really makes me upset. i am in love with her and i still want her back but not ready emotionally to take control. even though i assume, that she has slept with this guy i want her back but i know itz not up to me itz on her..what shoudl i do? i am doin NC starting today complete cutoff see her at gym but if do will only speak and keep it short so wont be rude. Yeah youve been told in your last 60 posts to give up hope. Plus dont believe what she says, she is lying to you to keep you hanging on, and to keep her in your head. Dont let her do that. She is getting off on you hanging on! She does NOT want to try again with you. Otherwise she wouldnt use the other guy as an excuse. An dont talk to her at the gym, after her using you for her ego, you shouldnt be talking to her at all. If you ignore her at the gym, it will help you get over her. Trust me
Thomas X Forever Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Don't bother, Boogie. Don't bother. The force isn't strong in this one.
Recommended Posts