JadedHeart Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I will never ever be someone's option when I make them a priority again. When people multi date they're keeping you as an option, does anyone else feel they deserve better than that? I think this trend of not labeling, exclusive bullcrap is only an excuse so people can do whatever they want. I may be old fashioned but I'm not outdated. I'm not bashing anyone, I just want to see if anyone else feels the same as I do. Thanks. ============================================== -Never make someone a priority when they're only keeping you as an option.
JohnP82 Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I think that you are right about not making someone a priority that does not make you one in their life. However, just because someone is dating only you doesn't mean that you are a priority in their life. Also I believe that dating multiple people has to do with covering your ass. Why invest so much into someone when they can change their mind quicker that the wind changes direction.
Female Tech Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I am not here to push a book, but after relationships that found me alone and wondering why men didn't want to make me a priority when I made them one I knew I must be doing something wrong. At first I blamed it on being a woman, more emotional than men, that I just needed more attention or contact. Then I stumbled on a book that totally opened my eyes. It was blunt, truthful and despite it's cover title, it really is a book about 'staying true to yourself' and not making 'his' live your WHOLE life. I realized I often put off my life and things I wanted to do 'just in case' he wanted to do something, or to wait for a call he promised. I felt it was rude to not be there but realized after this book that in giving up myself, I changed into another person, not the person I was when he met me. I was leaving myself and my identity behind to do everything to make his life better and him happy. So if you are up for it, you may want to try reading this book. I was amazed by it and highly recommend it to any woman that's dating! The book is "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov. I don't recomment playing games to get him to chase you on purpose, but I do believe in being yourself and not letting go of yourself when you find someone to share your life with. So read it with some common sense
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