stepka Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I met a very nice man on a dating site and we went out this week. At first I didn't think it was going well, but things took off and I went to see his boat with him and we ended up going sailing that night. I could tell he was really getting into me and he thinks I am beautiful and adorable, which did a lot for me considering that he's pretty nice looking himself. We had both started out thinking the other one was out of our league. He is already talking about a relationship and said he'd not touch me for fear of ruining any future chances. After talking online for awhile, we realized that we share some future goals that are unusual, like traveling the world. Also, he was very sweet and attentive to my needs and there was tremendous chemistry. So what's the problem? It's that he can bore me to death at times with his convo. Yesterday he called and went on and on about some situation with his family and some property, and that's all I know b/c I stopped listening about 5 minutes in. He ended up apologizing for rambling on and on and said he was tired (we had stayed up all night the night before). But there were some times during the date that he would talk on about things that were completely uninteresting to me too--more so than most people would I mean--it's not like I'm a boor who can't give and take in a convo. What would you do? Give it another chance or cut it off now? I might add that I'm looking for a nice boyfriend but not a husband, so a short term relationship is fine with me. He's never been married (at 52), so I doubt he's much into marriage either.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I would give it time. Some people like to explain things in more detail than others. Most of the friends of mine who are like this are also very detail-oriented and thorough in other areas, which can be a good thing in a partner (like in bed ). If you prefer more back and forth, interject now and then to keep the conversation more balanced. Hopefully the dynamic will shift accordingly.
Thaddeus Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Sounds like he just might be nervous around you a bit and you're picking up on that. Ruby is right. Give it time.
boogieboy Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 So interrupt him with a conversation that you will both find interesting. He will pick up on it that you are bored with the subject, and that he shouldnt be prattling on about nonsense, and that he has to be more interesting. If he cant roll with that, then you move on I guess.
Author stepka Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Okay good, I will. We're going back out in the boat tonight.
boogieboy Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Okay good, I will. We're going back out in the boat tonight. An interruption will work like a segway if you dont want to just shut him up: "yeah my family is making me nuts, my sister called me about how her daughter is wearing tube tops and shes having trouble selling her house..." Then you jump in: "Heeeyy...Speaking of tubetops, I have a bunch, want me to show you?" I love doing that to prattlers...
Author stepka Posted July 18, 2009 Author Posted July 18, 2009 An interruption will work like a segway if you dont want to just shut him up: "yeah my family is making me nuts, my sister called me about how her daughter is wearing tube tops and shes having trouble selling her house..." Then you jump in: "Heeeyy...Speaking of tubetops, I have a bunch, want me to show you?" I love doing that to prattlers... LOL! That was funny.
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