Cranky behaviour around parents/siblings: will i be cranky around my GF?

[LittleGuyBigIssues]

Greetings people,

 

Got a question for all of you:

 

My parents and brother sometimes comment that i come across as short, snappy or irritated when they bother me with something. Basically i want them to leave me alone and dont bother me. Im not angry or upset at them or anything like that, and i dont yell or shout. I hate it when i sound short/snappy at my family and would love to stop doing that.

 

Now will that mean that i will also act like that towards my girlfriend / wife in the future? Im currently in a relationship with a girl i have been talking to on a daily basis for a year now and i never get snappy or short with her, no matter if she nags at me or if she's being annoying. She's very sensitive and could easily get upset if i snap at her. If i do get irritated by her i usualy just roll my eyes and sigh. Which for her is enough of a clue to stop nagging and give me a little kiss insted.

 

So the question i have is:

Is it possible for a guy to be 'cranky' around his parents/siblings but remain a patient and calm person around his girlfriend/wife? Or will that guy sooner or later also act like a cranky old man (think Clint Eastwood) around his partner?

[Girlygal]

Greetings people,

 

If i do get irritated by her i usualy just roll my eyes and sigh. Which for her is enough of a clue to stop nagging and give me a little kiss insted.

 

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Yeah, i wouldnt really expect that kind of behaviour to last for long. Soon enough she will get tired of being ignored (which is what you are doing by rolling your eyes in the hopes that she will shut up) and that kiss is going to turn into a slap.

 

Once you are as comfortable with her as you are with your family i am willing to bet your attitude will show its ugly face. Go to couseling, work out your issues, or remain a jerk the rest of your life. Anyone that acts as though other people are an annoyance to them isa jerk in my book.

[stepka]

I have another take on that. I was also cranky with my family as I was growing up, but when I got married that behavior stopped. I worked very hard at keeping the relationship together, and I won't say I was perfect, but I was very much nicer.

 

I believe, and have no idea if it's the real reason, but my nutrition improved considerably when I left my parents house. My folks always bought the cheapest and most nutritionally devoid food in the grocery store, but I married a chef, and the food improved considerably. Also I got somewhat health conscious and take vitamins every day. B vites are esp good for a mood booster. You really should try to be nicer to your family though--do whatever it takes b/c they're your rock. Try to get to know them better.

[LittleGuyBigIssues]

Yeah, i wouldnt really expect that kind of behaviour to last for long. Soon enough she will get tired of being ignored (which is what you are doing by rolling your eyes in the hopes that she will shut up) and that kiss is going to turn into a slap.

 

Once you are as comfortable with her as you are with your family i am willing to bet your attitude will show its ugly face. Go to couseling, work out your issues, or remain a jerk the rest of your life. Anyone that acts as though other people are an annoyance to them isa jerk in my book.

 

Gotta clarify something there.

I dont neglect or ignore her, only when im in a bad mood and she keeps going on and on about something do i show any sign of irritation. But normally im a perfect gentlemen and listen to her even if the subject doesnt interest me at all.