vring81 Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hi everyone! I am new here but I am so thankful to have found this site. My backstory-I'll try to keep it short...My girlfriend and I were together of 2.5 years. She moved with me halfway across the country to start our new life together. About 8 months into out move she starts getting phone calls all the time. She starts acting strange around me. I notice that she friends with her ex on myspace all of a sudden. I confronted her about it and she said she would stop talking to her. That lasted about three days when she told me she was being transferred to a job in TX where the ex lives. She told me she loves this girl. She left behind her two dogs, one of which is old and I can't understand how a person could do that. I was beyond devastated. It's been about a week and a half since she moved. I have been trying NC but have only made it one day so far. She forgot a bunch of her stuff so I texted her to tell she had forgotten it. My biggest problem is the anger. I get so angry at her thinking about all the lies and deception. Any advice on how to stop the anger? Or turn it to something useful? Thanks for reading this!
Author vring81 Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Also, I know NC is the way to go but what do you do when there are things like her stuff still around that you want to get rid of and need an address to send them to, or is that just an excuse to talk to her again? My brain is so fried.
Exit Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 First of all, yes, thinking about the things she left behind IS an excuse to keep thinking about contacting her. So instead of perpetually thinking about it every day, just do it. Call her, if you get no answer, leave a message. Say she has 48 hours to contact you with an address, or the stuff is getting boxed up and put out on the street. DO NOT discuss anything else. Deliver the message about her belongings, and then hang up. The pain you're feeling is completely acceptable. And yes, I believe it can be put to good use as you mentioned. Better yourself. Make this person regret leaving you. If there are any goals you've been putting off, start pursuing them. Start eating healthier. You're going to have a lot of nervous/stressful energy, join a gym, or start walking around your neighborhood after dinner. Take some classes, start new hobbies, etc etc. You will definitely have a lot of emotion and energy and you CAN redirect it into something useful. Try not to be bitter about what happened. Don't let it bruise your ego. Like you said, what kind of person can believe behind their dog? Obviously this girl has issues with not forming real attachments to anything. Let her go chase after this love, maybe that won't work out and then she'll end up with nothing.
Author vring81 Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Is it evil to hope that she does end up with nothing? She left behind everything she once held so close. Not meaning only me but her dogs. So I do hope one day she wakes up, sees that she wasnt running TO something rather AWAY from something and she's not truly happy and she thinks about what she has lost. I don't want her back, she has shown her true colors but I would like her to feel regret.
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