racerkid Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I have a friend who has alot of boy problems and she always talks to me about it. Unfortunatly i run out of things to say sometimes. She is always depressed when she talks to me and cry's. Any ideas on what to say?
1Angel Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 You could say, "hey have you considered seeing a medical professional or therapist? I care about you and hurts to see you depressed all the time."
russelA Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 just tell her that's part of the game of love, you will be hurt if you haven't found the right love. make her realize that having a relationship with someone is also accepting the fact that pain will be part of it too.
tblucky Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 To help her solve some of her issues, I would gently offer constructive advice. Some people just complain perpetually even though they do not have any serious issues, and are otherwise fine. I would try to discourage her from having this type of relationship with you. When you speak, be an optimistic model and point out the good in her situations.
Devil Inside Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Your supportive presence is worth more than you think. Sometimes there is nothing to say.
tblucky Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 Your supportive presence is worth more than you think. Sometimes there is nothing to say. I agree that simply being there as a good listener is very important. I would also offer that this is very effective in most instances when friends are having issues, but I am not sure it applies to situations where a friend is chronically having the same problems. If I understood the OP correctly, his friend has a pattern of complaining and generally being negative. It is neither fair to him for being a sponge to absorb her complaints nor to her for holding back on things that may ultimately help her.
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