lilmrcheerful Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I've made the mistake of attempting to remain "friends" with my ex, it didn't work as I knew it wouldn't work. I should have continued NC. I've since initiated NC again but this time it's different to as it was the first time, not only am I adamant in never speaking to her again, I also sense that she's exceptionally angry with me, she reacted really badly to this and she's trying to make me feel guilty for not allowing the friendship to work which is absolutely rich coming from someone who was being unfaithful whilst we were together. It feels like she's been handed back the power even though I started NC, I don't think she should have the right to feel angry, maybe it's just another way of hers to relieve the guilt but at least I ended the final conversation with "after all is said and done, we both know the real truth", which as you can imagine she didn't respond to kindly to.
babsluvsyou Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 You might need to follow the advice you just gave me.
Author lilmrcheerful Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 You might need to follow the advice you just gave me. I am just angry and upset at myself for handling the whole thing so badly, I should have never of broken contact then I wouldn't be feeling this emotional mess. Thanks for responding anyway.
babsluvsyou Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Its okay, ppl will fall off the wagon. Dont beat yourself up over it. Really.
Author lilmrcheerful Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Its okay, ppl will fall off the wagon. Dont beat yourself up over it. Really. Thanks again. I'll be fine, I was last time during NC and I will be this time too. At least she won't be contacting me this time as she's the one that thinks she's hard done by!! I guess that makes my job even easier not worrying about when the next text or message will be coming because I know it won't.
boogieboy Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 You made the mistake of thinking you ever had the power in the first place. You still dont. If there is no relationship, there is no power. Friendship gives you nothing.
Exit Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Power is a matter of ego. Nobody can have any power that you aren't allowing them to have. You're in control of that.
boogieboy Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Power is a matter of ego. Nobody can have any power that you aren't allowing them to have. You're in control of that. Not true in this case, he probably initially wanted to go NC to make his ex miss him, thinking NC would work like that. If he ever wanted to get back with her, he never had the power.
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