tough talk from the BS...

[hopesndreams]

There has been so much happening since page 1 though...

 

Your thoughts might have changed or you can add more input?

[NoIDidn't]

So if the WS goes back to the BS, then the BS got the consolation prize? or maybe the WS is settling for the less?

 

I do not subscribe to that idea. I think it is very childish.

 

 

I'll post it for you again.

 

If the WS goes back to the BS, then the BS gets their SPOUSE back.

 

Please TRY and keep up.

 

There is a difference in ACTUAL relationship STATUS from the OP to the MP. The MP is MARRIED to the BS, therefore no prize status. But the OP is trying to "win" the heart of their married lover away from their spouse.

 

Hence the term "consolation prize". Because usually the OP only gets their "prize" when the BS throws them out or no longer fights for the relationship.

 

Sure, it may be childish, but so is having an affair when life got tough. But I don't hear you saying that. Apparently having an affair is only for paragons of virtue, truth, and authenticity.

[fooled once]

SD, you said

 

An apology is in order to White Flower and Fooled Once.... you were not BS after all.... just man hating women who were once burned when fooling around with a MM.... it's all clear now.

Hate to tell you - I am far from a man-hating woman. I am a happily married for 11+ years to the most wonderful, loving, caring man in the WORLD. He means the world to me. And I adore my adult on, my father, my brothers and my Father-in-law. I work with mainly men and have fantastic work relationships with them. So when you extend your apology to me for insulting me and ASSuming things about me, I will accept it.

 

Maybe in the future, before you start spewing untrue things about me, you will stop and think first.

 

and you are spot on - I was burned by a MM I dated. Yep. I was hurt very badly by his life and I guess you wanted to shove that in my face. Hope that made you feel good.

 

You also said

 

Except that enabling women rarely leave their alcoholic husbands

I left my alcoholic first husband. When he made it clear his booze was more important than me or our son, I divorced him. I held out for 9 years hoping he would change; hoping the birth of our son, his ONLY child, would help him realize what was really important. Unfortunately for him, he never did and I refused to allow our son to grow up in that type of household.

 

Good luck with your girlfriend. I hope her STB ex husband finds someone else to love him and be all to him that his STB ex wife couldn't be.

[Mino]

So if the WS goes back to the BS, then the BS got the consolation prize? or maybe the WS is settling for the less?

 

I do not subscribe to that idea. I think it is very childish.

Hey, TC, you stole my question:mad: I dont see like that either, never thought another human being as a prize. but somebody said that a few pages back. So Thats why I asked, thinking it goes both ways, Sorry NID, I lost, I will pay attention NOW:)

[Reggie]

Trust me, I wasn't looking for a fight.... but he didn't say stay away from his wife, get lost loser or nothing.... that's my point, what am I to think?

 

When I was working my way back in with my now-ex.... she drug me to a party where we knew her latest OM was going to be at. I realize now that this was quite disrespectful of her. That event, plus other things led me to decide to break from her.

 

Anyway, the gameplan was to just ignore the former OM.... the plan was working fine... later in the evening though, the OM got up from his side of the room and walked over to my now-ex, put his hand on her shoulder and whispered something in her ear.... that's when I went balistic. My mind filled with rage as I charged into the OM.... the only thing I wanted to do was tear him apart. And I certainly was telling him to get away from my wife. This was not a premeditated act either.... just an act of passion. This is the story I refered to earlier in this thread... so yes, I do know what OMs are capable of... been there, done that.

 

With my MW's husband, I didn't see any of this... nada. His only goal was to try to control the situation as he always had... by controlling his wife.

 

You sound whacked and weak. Where is your self control?

[Chrome Barracuda]

You dont get it reggie???

 

This guy SD, is f-ing insane! and this thread is hilarious!!!

 

And get this his ex wife cheated on him, so what he did in turn is became an OM who "took" a MW from her husband and then claimed it was a conquest!

 

Wow he is worse than lizzie! lol.

 

This whole thread is a joke!

[tami-chan]

That doesn't surprise me tami. You have proven that is the case...with you. The written word is very powerful and if we can't get to know someone through the written word..then what the hay is the point of all this? Why are you here?

 

"Your are not making sense to me";). What does not surprise you? that I do not claim to "know" people base on what they share here on the board? I can only say I have an "idea" of how they think, but I can never claim to know who they really are. Like I said, I am impressed by people who can know someone from things shared on these boards , like apparently...ahem...you.!!!!

 

LOL..Why am I here? I am here because I can <shrug> !

[tami-chan]

I'll post it for you again.

 

If the WS goes back to the BS, then the BS gets their SPOUSE back.

 

Please TRY and keep up.

 

There is a difference in ACTUAL relationship STATUS from the OP to the MP. The MP is MARRIED to the BS, therefore no prize status. But the OP is trying to "win" the heart of their married lover away from their spouse.

 

Hence the term "consolation prize". Because usually the OP only gets their "prize" when the BS throws them out or no longer fights for the relationship.

 

Sure, it may be childish, but so is having an affair when life got tough. But I don't hear you saying that. Apparently having an affair is only for paragons of virtue, truth, and authenticity.

 

lol..there's nothing to keep up. It's a ridiculous notion. And you will never hear me say affairs are childish. I absolutely understand why BSs would at every given chance diminish and render the affair as nowhere near profound...otherwise, how else can they take their beloved WSs back?

 

But I know what you are trying to do, NID...you are trying to rile me up..if I were you I would stop because you know as well I do, that in the end you will threaten to put me on ignore or not respond to my posts, only to take it all back...so stop it, for your own sake...really...it's pathetic.

[NoIDidn't]

lol..there's nothing to keep up. It's a ridiculous notion. And you will never hear me say affairs are childish. I absolutely understand why BSs would at every given chance diminish and render the affair as nowhere near profound...otherwise, how else can they take their beloved WSs back?

 

You tell me. Apparently, you took your beloved WS back too. LOL. I love it!! You come here somehow an *elevated* BS because you cheated BACK on your cheating H. LOL. And look down the nose at other wives that have been cheated on. Its laughable watching you try to insult BSs at every turn. Its laughable AND its sad at the same time.

 

But I know what you are trying to do, NID...you are trying to rile me up..if I were you I would stop because you know as well I do, that in the end you will threaten to put me on ignore or not respond to my posts, only to take it all back...so stop it, for your own sake...really...it's pathetic.

 

You are hilarious. I think I will take you off Ignore, since I still hit "View Post" to see the nonsense anyway.

 

I don't have to try rile you up. You seem to ALWAYS be riled up. Always ready to jump the gun and assume the worse about posters that you don't agree with. Its more like you make it your job to attempt to rile other (being one yourself) BSs up. Here and in the Political Threads. You "Troll" through posts here looking for someone, ANYONE to insult and hopefully get some kind of like response to the provocations you post. Oh, yeah, but I'm pathetic

 

Anyway, I see you didn't bother to respond to what I actually wrote, though. Not like you ever really do anyway.

[Athena]

I think I explainded what I thought he should have done... and if I would have gone to the trouble of tracking my wife and the OM down... I'm sure I would have been a bit more caveman about it... Of course, I was the BS at one time and I kept tabs on the OM from a distance... watched him rather closely... I didn't act until he approached my now-ex wife in my plain sight.

 

I think you are saying that he should have been 'the man' and faced off with you (just like you did with your W's OM). However, I ask you why YOU were NOT 'the man' and face off with the H, for swearing at a lady (your g/f, his W) in front of you!

 

In my mind, you should have stopped him from badmouthing your MW in front of you!!!

[Athena]

besides, I don't need to do anything to him. getting my xW is punishment enough. He is finding this out, and in turn she is finding out he is her punishment too.

 

best part is, I didn't have to do a thing

 

Brilliant!

[Athena]

you try to make it appear that H's reasons for not doing so in this case were either selfish or cowardly.

 

I agree, this is what it sounds like... but, the thing is, that in my opinion, SD did the same 'cowardly' thing by not standing up for his woman being treated badly in front of him! Never mind WHO's doing the cussing, you shouldn't have allowed that! Even my son as a teen stopped his dad from cussing at me the one time he heard it going on!! (and that was/is my H, too... just like YOUR MM! But my son had 'the balls' to call out any man who spoke badly to his mother!).

[Athena]

I was suprised by his complete lack of action.

 

Was your g/f the MW, also surprised by YOUR complete lack of action? You didn't step in to stop the verbal abuse being hurled her way for doing something you had something to do with as well? Instead you let her be sworn at? And in front of you, too? Does she even still respect you?

I am not saying you had to jump him like you jumped the OM who did your exW.. (hmm, maybe you loved your exW more?).. but you didn't even tell him to quit verbally abusing your love?! Wow, just wow...

[ForumFool]

LMAO HE didn't come here for SUPPORT...But the thread is a lol a minute

 

And your main concern is trying to hurt someone who can to this forum for SUPPORT.

 

That makes you the FLY ON THE S*** OF HIS SHOE.

 

GEL

[Athena]

Yes, my focus is on our relationship and how we will handle him in the future.

that would have been all nice and wonderful except for him spitting obscenties at her. Once again, too much credit for this wonderful BS. This man has no self control... only wants to control others. He is an alcoholic after all.

 

 

Well, if the Past is anything to go by, then the Future predictions entail her H spitting obscenities at your wonderful MW, while you stand quietly by listening to him spouting his filthy mouth off at her, & you wondering if he's gonna try beat you up! :lmao:

[Chrome Barracuda]

I know that if I was in that bar it wouldn't have been a whole lot of talking! lol.

 

This woman and him was just pathetic. but the husband will probably laugh in the long run, the OM definitely won the booby prize!

[ForumFool]

I know that if I was in that bar it wouldn't have been a whole lot of talking! lol.

 

This woman and him was just pathetic. but the husband will probably laugh in the long run, the OM definitely won the booby prize!

 

 

:laugh::laugh: I am not sure if ANY of this story is true....Its all just too funny. Add to that the slug fest going on between other posters all over a made up story to add fuel to the ficticious BS vs OP drama...

 

IF it is true then I agree CB ....booby prize hahahaha

[tami-chan]

You tell me. Apparently' date=' you took your beloved WS back too. LOL. I love it!! You come here somehow an *elevated* BS because you cheated BACK on your cheating H. LOL. And look down the nose at other wives that have been cheated on. Its laughable watching you try to insult BSs at every turn. Its laughable AND its sad at the same time. [/quote']

 

Actually, at 19 years old at D-day I did not take hm back, I allowed him to stay (not that he ever wanted to leave or was confused about who he wanted to be in his life forever) but in staying he did not get his wife back--so I do not know what kind of "taking him back" you are talking about, I am sure it is not like how you took your husband back. I never talked crap about his OW's either..how can I? I didn't/don't know them. 'Never diminished his relationships with them (he did it himself)- I just didn't have an opinion about it nor was I interested in what or how or why he had/has those relationships.

 

Am I an "elevated BS" because I cheated? Heck, no. I am just a BS who did not fight for her marriage, that's all...I do not believe I have to fight for any relationship or for anybody( except for my daughter)....not the stbxH nor the xOM.

 

I am laughable? LOL...really. I think you are laughable, too. You come in here talking about consolation prizes and saying stuff like get with it...and try to follow...there is nothing to follow.You need to just be honest about it...what's your point in saying and explaining that if the WS chooses the OW, he got the consolation prize, if not to insult? That kind of talk can be turned around and OWs can say, the husband settled for the BS. But we (or maybe just me? ) know that kind of rhetoric is just meant to insult and injure. All I said was relationships are not about winning to losing, etc..but no, you had to create drama by insisting on it...Get over yourself and grow up.

 

I insult BS at every turn? are you sure about that? I will ask you to prove it, but you won't because you can't. Don't lie or assign untrue things to prove your point.

 

You are hilarious. I think I will take you off Ignore, since I still hit "View Post" to see the nonsense anyway.

 

I am glad I make you happy. You know you can't help but read my posts because I make your day. It's the least I can do for someone like you .

 

Yeah, it's "trolling' when someone hits a nerve..otherwise it's just "being honest"...LOL....pathetic? yes, you are pathetic.

 

Anyway, I see you didn't bother to respond to what I actually wrote, though. Not like you ever really do anyway.

 

For what? I told you I do not see relationshps as winning or losing or getting the consolation prize or the jackpot....how can I counter your nutty thinking? I told you it was childish, if I countered it then there would be two of us...I think you are doing a fine job doing it by yourself.

[NoIDidn't]

Actually, at 19 years old at D-day I did not take hm back, I allowed him to stay (not that he ever wanted to leave or was confused about who he wanted to be in his life forever) but in staying he did not get his wife back--so I do not know what kind of "taking him back" you are talking about, I am sure it is not like how you took your husband back. I never talked crap about his OW's either..how can I? I didn't/don't know them. 'Never diminished his relationships with them (he did it himself)- I just didn't have an opinion about it nor was I interested in what or how or why he had/has those relationships.

 

 

 

And the point of this is what? You're still trying to claim that you somehow are better than any other BS. This "explanation" is more of the same. More of your "better than" the average BW belief that you cling to. But your persona here is much too mean for me to feel sorry for you.

 

 

I am laughable? LOL...really. I think you are laughable, too. You come in here talking about consolation prizes and saying stuff like get with it...and try to follow...there is nothing to follow.You need to just be honest about it...what's your point in saying and explaining that if the WS chooses the OW, he got the consolation prize, if not to insult? That kind of talk can be turned around and OWs can say, the husband settled for the BS. But we (or maybe just me? ) know that kind of rhetoric is just meant to insult and injure. All I said was relationships are not about winning to losing, etc..but no, you had to create drama by insisting on it...Get over yourself and grow up.

 

I've said it three times and you still manage to get it wrong. The MP leaving for the OP isn't getting a consolation prize. The BS keeping their marriage isn't getting a consolation prize. The OP that gets the MP by default, GETS a consolation prize.

 

I really don't care that you find me laughable or pathetic. I can promise you that while posting with you in this way is not productive for me, any exposure of your nature is good for the posters here who have actually come for real discussion and not with a bone to pick. I am quite secure in who I am, on this board AND IRL, so insult away.

 

Calling me childish or telling me to grow up, actually makes your point ....in reverse.

 

I won't be responding to you in this thread any further before one or both of us ends up banned temporarily. So please don't mistake my decision as running from a fight or something else lofty that plants you as some sort of victor.

[tami-chan]

And the point of this is what? You're still trying to claim that you somehow are better than any other BS. This "explanation" is more of the same. More of your "better than" the average BW belief that you cling to. But your persona here is much too mean for me to feel sorry for you.

 

No claim. Just the truth. I think you believe I AM better because I sure don't feel that way. Keep your "feeling sorry" to yourself. I am not here for that, obviously you are since you mentioned it.

 

I've said it three times and you still manage to get it wrong. The MP leaving for the OP isn't getting a consolation prize. The BS keeping their marriage isn't getting a consolation prize. The OP that gets the MP by default, GETS a consolation prize.

 

The fact that you mentioned it at all is my point-you wanted to insult. And you insisted on explaining it (just like above ) even though I have said that I do not believe in that. It is a warped belief designed to make yourself feel better at the expense of the truth.

 

.... I can promise you that while posting with you in this way is not productive for me, any exposure of your nature is good for the posters here who have actually come for real discussion and not with a bone to pick. I am quite secure in who I am, on this board AND IRL, so insult away...

 

lol...shhuurre..

 

Calling me childish or telling me to grow up, actually makes your point ....in reverse.

 

Yup, grow up and stop lying and assigning your own feelings to people.

 

I won't be responding to you in this thread any further before one or both of us ends up banned temporarily. So please don't mistake my decision as running from a fight or something else lofty that plants you as some sort of victor.

 

Is this really how you see everything? victors and losers? Do you not think that by doing that you place too much importance on the other person? Anyway, I hope you keep your word this time. There's got to be something I can hold true about you, NiD-it is really important to me !

[Athena]

I also don't get why this guy posted this thread. Well, actually, I remember now. He said it was just to piss off BS's. Pathetic.

 

Perhaps he is just feeling insecure for not standing up for his woman when another man dissed her (and him by default), and came here to put a different spin on the whole incident? You know, to make himself feel better about it all... I personally am appalled that he has it in him to Fight for his ex, but do absolutely Zero to protect this so-called wonderful dream woman of his future... what kind of a man stands by idly allowing despicable insults to be hurled at his woman?! c'mon!!!!! (Especially so, when HE is half to blame for participating with said woman for said insults!! It's like he allowed her to take ALL the blame/punishment/insults for THEIR combined 'crime' of infidelity... ).

 

He has unwittingly outed his own cowardly lack of protective action here on this thread.

[fooled once]

Athena, you make a VERY valid and great point - why didn't SD stand up for his woman?

 

As for the in-fighting; can you guys take it to PM please?

[lkjh]

NoIdidn't,

You should just give up, tami has one purpose and it is to argue with people.

[tami-chan]

NoIdidn't,

You should just give up, tami has one purpose and it is to argue with people.

 

yet again....don't you read? she already has...but only "in this thread"...

[TroyNJ]

To the OP, how I would have handled the situation as the skanks H is I would have simply walked up to the pair of you, punched you in the mouth not because I wanted her but because you disprespected me by being out in public with my wife. As far as her pfft, she wouldn't have got a second thought.

 

You made the statement you were winng because you were getting "The Woman of my Dreams", I guess your into Nightmares because that's what's coming, any woman who would cheat before leaving the marriage is a very weak, self serving individual.

 

Now on to you, you lived this before and felt the pain that went with it why would you involve yourself in a situation like this? it shows you are also a very weak alpha male wanna be that has to pray on a woman who is damaged. Way to go bro, your the man.

 

This is one of the most pathetic threads I have ever seen on this forum, sad actually.