herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 OMG! the spelling cops!!! I was more worried about "they're", "their" and "there" or "two", "to" and "too"!!! Oh no I'm more of the fashion police than a spelling cop. That's why I use spell check.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Why would someone have to be a BS to care whether someone has good or bad intentions behind the creation of a thread? He's stated he just wanted to piss some people off. Very juvenile. Well, since most of us are hiding behind aliaes anyway, what does it matter?
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 OMG! the spelling cops!!! I was more worried about "they're", "their" and "there" or "two", "to" and "too"!!! Poor grammar is far worse. Bad spelling can just be a typo.
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 You ready to spill the beans yet SD? We are all waiting in anticipation.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 OMG! the spelling cops!!! I was more worried about "they're", "their" and "there" or "two", "to" and "too"!!! Poor grammar is far worse. Bad spelling can just be a typo. what?! "OMG!" and "the spelling cops!!!" are not sentences? I'm doomed.
herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Well, since most of us are hiding behind aliaes anyway, what does it matter? Really SD, now you're just being annoying. Go to the tool bar and under edit, you will find spell check. Use it and it will make you happy. Trust me, even my sex life has improved since I have been using spell check. I'm much more vocal in bed because of my command of the english language. Just kidding, I make as many mistakes as anyone else. I'm just messing with you.
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Ok, enough goofing off. We are all here to listen.
herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Ok, enough goofing off. We are all here to listen. Yes, I'm with ya H&D. Tell us SD, what is the real story?
NoIDidn't Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hilarious thread! An OM afraid he was going to get his @$z handed to him by the MW's H in a bar came here to boast because he *didn't* get beat up. LOL! Sounds like a chihuahua after running behind his owner's legs! "There take THAT!" "Oh, so that's all you got, huh?! Tough guy!" LOL. And that *some* even thought he was looking for support when he clearly came here to toast his 'victory'. I love the smell of hypocrisy on a Friday afternoon. LMAO!
herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hilarious thread! An OM afraid he was going to get his @$z handed to him by the MW's H in a bar came here to boast because he *didn't* get beat up. LOL! Sounds like a chihuahua after running behind his owner's legs! "There take THAT!" "Oh, so that's all you got, huh?! Tough guy!" LOL. And that *some* even thought he was looking for support when he clearly came here to toast his 'victory'. I love the smell of hypocrisy on a Friday afternoon. LMAO! OMG, NID, I miss you. How is the baby?. Getting big I bet.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Your wife cheated... YES. you got pissed YES. won her back from the OM YES. but your ego took such a sh*t kicking that the only way you could big yourself up was to "steal" (your words) another mans wife. I will say YES to this as well... I don't think I wanted another man's wife permanently... but we did find each other and gave strong signals that we were going to make ourselves available to each other. I wasn't planning on leaving my marriage at first. Too be honest, I was just looking for a fling. Now that you have her and her H isn't putting up any fight to keep her, you are getting restless and bored. I have had a problem in the past with getting restless and bored in relationships. Somewhere in the course of our affair, I came to the realization that this woman did suit me very well. I think I posted in another thread somewhere about my disillusionment with the roller coaster ride she was putting me through... I was hanging in there fairly well, but it came to a point where I did break it off. This was post confrontation with her husband. That was enough of a shock to her system to where she blow up her marriage and came back after me very hard. I really did want her, so we started up again and here we are now with her divorce underway. Does that sum it up? I can't be any more truthful with everyone here about this. This is what happened. I'm not expecting most to agree with my actions but I'm laying it all out for you.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Hilarious thread! An OM afraid he was going to get his @$z handed to him by the MW's H in a bar came here to boast because he *didn't* get beat up. LOL! Sounds like a chihuahua after running behind his owner's legs! "There take THAT!" "Oh, so that's all you got, huh?! Tough guy!" LOL. And that *some* even thought he was looking for support when he clearly came here to toast his 'victory'. I love the smell of hypocrisy on a Friday afternoon. LMAO! My God!!! This man has an arsenal!! I thought I was going to get shot!
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 The MW suited your purposes rather well and you may think you have fallen for her but in reality you have fallen for the idea of her. When all the dust has settled you may find yourself with nothing. You will have to live with guilt of what you have done and you will be alone and broken unless you come to terms with what has happened to your marriage and the only way to do that is to forgive her and to forgive yourself.
NoIDidn't Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 My God!!! This man has an arsenal!! I thought I was going to get shot! Yeah, just like the chihuahua thought it was going to get stepped on. Your post was intended to say "BSs are wimps", after you didn't get the fight you expected. Seriously, I don't know why you are so impressed with yourself or your MW. She got you all hyped up concerning what her H would or wouldn't do. And she did it more for HERSELF than for you. And like the typically brainwashed OP, you come here and post the nonsense that she fed you like its the gospel truth. Guess who is upset that he didn't fight for his marriage? HER. And like a good AP, you've accepted her projection onto you as the truth. She wants him to fight for their marriage. She wants him to chase after her. But it appears he's done with her and the marriage. And you thought you 'won'? Hilarious.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Yeah, just like the chihuahua thought it was going to get stepped on. Your post was intended to say "BSs are wimps", after you didn't get the fight you expected. Seriously, I don't know why you are so impressed with yourself or your MW. She got you all hyped up concerning what her H would or wouldn't do. And she did it more for HERSELF than for you. And like the typically brainwashed OP, you come here and post the nonsense that she fed you like its the gospel truth. Guess who is upset that he didn't fight for his marriage? HER. And like a good AP, you've accepted her projection onto you as the truth. She wants him to fight for their marriage. She wants him to chase after her. But it appears he's done with her and the marriage. And you thought you 'won'? Hilarious. I fully understand that she would have liked nothing more than her husband to love her.... and that's ok, because they were married so long... but the fact is, is that she blew up her own marriage to be with me. I had left her. I guess I don't really feel like the consolation prize. You can think whatever you want but the fact is... MW and I have talked about all of this. When the first question is "how can we ever trust each other?" These subjects tend to come up.
NoIDidn't Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I fully understand that she would have liked nothing more than her husband to love her.... and that's ok, because they were married so long... but the fact is, is that she blew up her own marriage to be with me. I had left her. I guess I don't really feel like the consolation prize. You can think whatever you want but the fact is... MW and I have talked about all of this. When the first question is "how can we ever trust each other?" These subjects tend to come up. You've got it wrong. You aren't the consolation prize. She is. You just got what her H couldn't be bothered with fighting for. Congratulations!
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Yeah, just like the chihuahua thought it was going to get stepped on. Your post was intended to say "BSs are wimps", after you didn't get the fight you expected. Seriously, I don't know why you are so impressed with yourself or your MW. She got you all hyped up concerning what her H would or wouldn't do. And she did it more for HERSELF than for you. And like the typically brainwashed OP, you come here and post the nonsense that she fed you like its the gospel truth. Guess who is upset that he didn't fight for his marriage? HER. And like a good AP, you've accepted her projection onto you as the truth. She wants him to fight for their marriage. She wants him to chase after her. But it appears he's done with her and the marriage. And you thought you 'won'? Hilarious. You are wrong on every count. You can think that you can project your experience onto mine... but you really can't. All individuals are different which make the dynamics of each couple very different. Sorry things didn't work out for you.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 You've got it wrong. You aren't the consolation prize. She is. You just got what her H couldn't be bothered with fighting for. Congratulations! Well, I'll disagree with you on that as well. She is a wonderful person. You are an idiot for trashing someone you don't even know. Too bad for you.
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I guess I don't really feel like the consolation prize. Sadly, in truth, that is what you are. She was in a horrible marriage through the fault of her H. As you have said, he was an alcoholic and liked being in control. You gave her a way out of her bad marriage. It wouldn't have taken much effort from any man to take her away from him.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 I guess I don't really feel like the consolation prize. Sadly, in truth, that is what you are. She was in a horrible marriage through the fault of her H. As you have said, he was an alcoholic and liked being in control. You gave her a way out of her bad marriage. It wouldn't have taken much effort from any man to take her away from him. Except that enabling women rarely leave their alcoholic husbands. She's not perfect by no means, but who amongst us really is?
herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 If you really want to know what goes on in the mind of the BS, here goes. When I found out my H was cheating, my first response was that our marriage was over. There was no way I wanted to be married to a man who wanted to be with someone else. I didn't fight. I told him he was free to go. My only request was that he work with me to make sure our kids didn't suffer. Had I fought, what would I win? A man who I assumed would rather be elsewhere. How would that make me happy? Why would anyone want to be with someone in that situation? I felt it was better for me to make sure I was able to be happy with or without my H and that my kids would be OK. IMO, the reaction that your GF H had was the most appropriate one. Why would he fight for his wife when he had proof that she was with an OM?
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 I guess I don't really feel like the consolation prize. Sadly, in truth, that is what you are. She was in a horrible marriage through the fault of her H. As you have said, he was an alcoholic and liked being in control. You gave her a way out of her bad marriage. It wouldn't have taken much effort from any man to take her away from him. Well, now I have one person saying she is the consolation prize and another one telling me that I am... we are all relationship experts around here, aren't we?
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 No need to be flippant.. you wanted some advice, and here we are. No one made you come here. You have big time issues and when you are ready to face them, there are those here that can help you.
Author spiraling downward Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 If you really want to know what goes on in the mind of the BS, here goes. When I found out my H was cheating, my first response was that our marriage was over. There was no way I wanted to be married to a man who wanted to be with someone else. I didn't fight. I told him he was free to go. My only request was that he work with me to make sure our kids didn't suffer. Had I fought, what would I win? A man who I assumed would rather be elsewhere. How would that make me happy? Why would anyone want to be with someone in that situation? I felt it was better for me to make sure I was able to be happy with or without my H and that my kids would be OK. IMO, the reaction that your GF H had was the most appropriate one. Why would he fight for his wife when he had proof that she was with an OM? I have nothing to quibble about with what you say. Of course, I was a BS also at one time not too long ago... What was going on in this situation with my MW and her hubby, was that he was losing his enabler... that is the bottom line.
herenow Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I have nothing to quibble about with what you say. Of course, I was a BS also at one time not too long ago... What was going on in this situation with my MW and her hubby, was that he was losing his enabler... that is the bottom line. Maybe he didn't fight you because he realizes he will be better off without his enabler.
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