lkjh Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Has anyone made love to their MM and H on same day, and if so, did you feel bad about it in any way? If you know your MM wants to make love on a particular day, and your H will too, do you stop any partner? I never felt good about making love to 2 people on the same day. I was wondering if anyone felt the same and if so, did you tell your MM the truth about your sexual relationship with your H? wow, Im just glad to see you have rules and standards when you cheat
Andy L Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 did you tell your MM the truth about your sexual relationship with your H? I thought the right is: telling "your H the truth about sexual relationship with your MM"... But since you are doing it with someone else, it really doesn't matter. Go a head, no problem with 2, 3,... in the same day.
GreenEyedLady Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I cannot believe this. People, why are you even here? It's pretty obvious you are not here to help, but HURT!!!!! If you can't be objective or offer some help, THEN STAY OFF OTHER PEOPLE'S THREADS! People come here to get help, to find people who can empathize with them and help them find their way. Yet you guys (you know who you are) are all a bunch of sh**h***'* trying to kick someone when they are down. No one should have to be called the names you have basically called the OP. And for those of you who believe in karma, it will find YOU. OP, I am sorry that you find yourself here. I hope that you can find support you need here. Put the a******'* on ignore and just listen to those who are trying to help you without being rude or obnoxious. Not everyone is this hateful. Hugs to you, I can't imagine how awful you feel after reading some of the comments on this thread when you reached out for help. Just remember that people who are so hateful don't know any better. GEL
boldjack Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I've done my first wife in the morning, my AP at lunch and my wife again that night, so it is either 2 or 3. I didn't care any more than you do.
bentnotbroken Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I've done my first wife in the morning, my AP at lunch and my wife again that night, so it is either 2 or 3. I didn't care any more than you do. Boldjack, you have always been very honest about your feelings. I have actually learned a lot from your posts. Your realness, with the no s*i* attitude and owning what you did....from a FBS thank you.
lovekillsslowly Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 GEL - Thank you so much for posting your above response about name calling and being helpful!! This is a support and advice forum. Too many of these posters get on this specific forum to simply degrade someone and call them names and attempt to make them feel worse than they already do. We already feel like s**t, we know what we are doing or have done is morally wrong and we aren't proud of our actions. If you can't offer supportive, understanding, useful advice then don't respond. The ones that really get me are the ones who like to quote scripture or preach about how morally offensive our actions are but yet they seem to disregard the fact that all sins our equal and offensive in the Lords eyes whether that be telling a lie, having an affair or even committing murder. So unless you've lived a completely sin free - which none of us have - then quit throwing stones!!
lovekillsslowly Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hi UnderTheSun - thankfully I never found myself in that situation. If I had I wouldn't of been able to do that. I can only imagine what that feeling must be like....meeting up with the MM and wanting to be intimate with him so you go ahead and have sex with him and then having to go home to the H and being expected to have sex with him and in order to not throw up any "red flags" you give into him too. What a flipping nightmare that would be! I hope you find some helpful advice to your post that can help you deal with this situation if it ever comes up again.
utterer of lies Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 So unless you've lived a completely sin free - which none of us have - then quit throwing stones!! Haha, not everyone shares your religious beliefs. Ever thought about the fact that some people might not define sin the same way you do? *throws stone*
Tony Posted July 17, 2009 Senior Moderators Posted July 17, 2009 I'm not going to let this thread go too much longer. I don't see that answers will serve any useful purpose and, already, there have been a number of inappropriate posts. I just don't have the energy to monitor this for days. Thanks!
White Flower Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 Tony, you deserve sainthood. I applaud you for taking a deep breath each time you step into this forum!
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm not going to let this thread go too much longer. I don't see that answers will serve any useful purpose and, already, there have been a number of inappropriate posts. I just don't have the energy to monitor this for days. Thanks! Just curious, have you ever been involved in an affair?
Mr. Lucky Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Unless you just dont feel like having sex twice...what can the difference possibly be?? Underthesun, I still haven't seen you answer this question. If you're OK with the affair, what difference does the timing of sex make? And how long between is long enough? Mr. Lucky
ForumFool Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 GEL this would be a very nice post IF the person was ASKING for help and expressing some pain...but it was just stated that they wanted to KNOW not that they need help..or feel pain... To the OP you make choices...I would make one's I could live with and that as you can see varies from person to person....I personally would not choose to have sex with anyone I didn't want to have sex with. It may help to cut hubby lose then you would not be dealing with your issues. LIFE is full of choices...nobody HAS to have an affair....nobody HAS to stay married (OK...maybe in third world countries)..or even get married. I cannot believe this. People, why are you even here? It's pretty obvious you are not here to help, but HURT!!!!! If you can't be objective or offer some help, THEN STAY OFF OTHER PEOPLE'S THREADS! People come here to get help, to find people who can empathize with them and help them find their way. Yet you guys (you know who you are) are all a bunch of sh**h***'* trying to kick someone when they are down. No one should have to be called the names you have basically called the OP. And for those of you who believe in karma, it will find YOU. OP, I am sorry that you find yourself here. I hope that you can find support you need here. Put the a******'* on ignore and just listen to those who are trying to help you without being rude or obnoxious. Not everyone is this hateful. Hugs to you, I can't imagine how awful you feel after reading some of the comments on this thread when you reached out for help. Just remember that people who are so hateful don't know any better. GEL
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm not going to let this thread go too much longer. I don't see that answers will serve any useful purpose and, already, there have been a number of inappropriate posts. I just don't have the energy to monitor this for days. Thanks!Just curious, have you ever been involved in an affair? <Sigh> here is ole SignedIn, Sky123, Creeks, etc now back in new packaging "BlackWhite"... Why not tell US a little about Yourself, ole BW? Your ex cheated on you and ran off with a better looking guy? "Just Curious, too"...
NoIDidn't Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Has anyone made love to their MM and H on same day, and if so, did you feel bad about it in any way? If you know your MM wants to make love on a particular day, and your H will too, do you stop any partner? I never felt good about making love to 2 people on the same day. I was wondering if anyone felt the same and if so, did you tell your MM the truth about your sexual relationship with your H? I can't say that I've ever had to do this (not being in an affair) but I can imagine its sometimes necessary. I think 2sure gave great advice to consider, though. I have read and re-read this OP a couple of times and it seems like you have *had* to do this a couple of times and are starting to not like it. Is that what's going on? I once read in another forum where a man was complaining that he never suspected that his W was cheating on him because she was basically sexing him crazy. Another man responded back something like "yeah, because cheating W's give blowjobs". I LMAO. It was the funniest thing I had ever heard (funny because most men complain that their Ws DON'T give blowjobs anymore ). And it must have been true to an extent if a woman wants to keep the affair hidden.
White Flower Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Just curious, have you ever been involved in an affair? I'm sure our forum moderator doesn't need to defend himself against you. It is completely bad form to ask, besides, he has stated many times that he could not imagine himself in the position of an A.
Darth Vader Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Spiralingdownward,that's what I'm talking about. That 'not liking it' feeling. I've made love to my MM and H on consecutive days and I never liked it so I always try to avoid making love to my MM. Why don't you tell your husband that you're Riding some other man, and let your hubby go and find someone who will be faithful to him? How would you feel if your husband did this to you? You realize that you're exposing your husband to STD's right? So much for loving your husband, because you obvisouly don't, since you are exposing him to STD's and forcing him to remain married to you, what a selfish piece of work you are! And don't give me the don't Judge me Bullcrap, because that don't work with me! If you said that, it would be because you didn't want to accept the responsibility of your actions, and/or not wanting to accept the consequences to your actions!
Darth Vader Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I'm sure our forum moderator doesn't need to defend himself against you. It is completely bad form to ask, besides, he has stated many times that he could not imagine himself in the position of an A. I'm like DAMN! Even I wouldn't have done that.................. There's just some things a person shouldn't do. I agree totally with you.
whichwayisup Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Has anyone made love to their MM and H on same day, and if so, did you feel bad about it in any way? If you know your MM wants to make love on a particular day, and your H will too, do you stop any partner? I never felt good about making love to 2 people on the same day. I was wondering if anyone felt the same and if so, did you tell your MM the truth about your sexual relationship with your H? Can I ask? Why are you still married? Why not divorce your husband, set him free to so he can find love with a woman who won't cheat on him? Or, why not end your affair, focus on your husband and making your marriage better. I doubt that ANY MM or MW is going to confess to their OW/OM if they've had sex that morning with their spouses.
GreenEyedLady Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Why do so many people come down so hard on MW? This is their forum too... I don't see people slam MM who come and post here be as rude and offensive to them... Sexism, again...
GreenEyedLady Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 You know what OP? Come here after you get it on with your AP and tell everyone about how great it was... Then laugh your a** off because the rest of these offensive posters very OBVIOUSLY not getting any.... GEL
Darth Vader Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Why do so many people come down so hard on MW? This is their forum too... I don't see people slam MM who come and post here be as rude and offensive to them... Sexism, again... I've slammed both sexs thank you very much! I'm an equal opportunity slammer!:lmao: At least I try! Away with you, Lady! Then laugh your a** off because the rest of these offensive posters very OBVIOUSLY not getting any.... And I get plenty!
bentnotbroken Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Have/will you tell your H you don't love him? Or will you continue in the vain? If you aren't satisfied in the marriage, won't you be prone to indulge in another A? How do you feel today after ending things? Do you have a plan or are you just going to go with the flow and see where it ends?
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