joejohnson Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Ok, I have this girl I dated about 6 months ago that I am still friends with. We dated for about 2 months and were very close, always talked on the phone, hung out allot, went on dates. She would be very attached and say things like she was happy I found her and that she has a feeling for me that she has never had before. Then all of a sudden she says that she does not think that we are right for each other but she still wants to be friends. Here is where it gets tricky, she sends me text messages asking how I am doing and asking if I am seeing anyone, if I say yes then she seems to get upset saying whatever or good I hope your happy. When she split up with her bf she seemed to make it a point to let me know. I think she is nuts but I am looking for ideas. Anyone have any opinions? Thanks Joe
Author joejohnson Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 How do I know if she really still has feelings? I still have feelings for her. How do I act on this situation to make it work (if it can).
BCCA Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 This is a pretty common situation. Basically, it comes down to her being selfish. She knows if you meet someone else, you'll never want anything to do with her. Similarly, she knows if you feel like you two are never getting back together, youre going to want nothing to do with her. What she is trying to do is keep you in limbo, hoping that she can relieve as much guilt as possible by pretending you two are 'friends', before more on to someone else. If she had any inclination to reconcile, she would have made that clear. Shes just fishing for info, and to see if she still has you on the hook. The fact that youre even corresponding with her lets her know that youre still under her spell. Here is how you can tell how serious she is: ignore any and all messages that are pointless. "How are you" is a pointless message, same with anything about who youre seeing. Unless she has something important to say, ignore it. It takes 2 seconds to send a text, how special does that really make you feel? Bottom line dude, no woman dumps a guy she sees long term value in. Dont be the fall back, if all else fails, guy. If you end up there, youll find yourself dumped over and over as soon as something better comes along. For her, or anyone, to see value in you, you need to set boundries. This girl walked out on you, she gets nothing from you anymore. Stop responding to pointless messages, and just stay completely out of contact with her.
Author joejohnson Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 Ya, I think you guys have a point. She was always with guys that were jerks and when I came along I was nothing but sweet to her and helped her out allot. I think maybe she didn't know how to take me and got scared or something. She is 24 years old but seems to be acting like she is 12. Thanks for the input guys. Joe
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