XOXO13 Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Hello All! I would really love to get some insight on your thoughts... What is the "average" length of time it takes for you to decide if you wanna move forward from "just dating" to "BF/GF" status?? (ex. 5,10, 20 dates? or # months of knowing them?) What "sparks" your interest in wanting to be committed to that ONE person??
lilly83 Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 The quickest I have gone from dating to relationship is 7 dates and the longest it has taken is 12 dates. I feel that you do need to have quite a few dates and spend time getting to know a person before making it exclusive. You also just have that feeling and will know when it is right to make the move to the next stage.
AlektraClementine Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I may be way off base here but I think that if a relationship is really that good, you don't measure it in # of dates. That may be reasonable for a "boiler plate" relationship but I wonder how many of those last forever. My relationship (looking back) was exclusive pretty much from the start. We liked each other so much that we just started spending all of our time together and it was a no-brainer.
utterer of lies Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hello All! I would really love to get some insight on your thoughts... What is the "average" length of time it takes for you to decide if you wanna move forward from "just dating" to "BF/GF" status?? (ex. 5,10, 20 dates? or # months of knowing them?) What "sparks" your interest in wanting to be committed to that ONE person?? After some time you wake up and realize that you did nothing but excessive newly-in-love-shagging for the past few weeks. I guess that's the point where you are bf/gf.
colosseum Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hello All! I would really love to get some insight on your thoughts... What is the "average" length of time it takes for you to decide if you wanna move forward from "just dating" to "BF/GF" status?? (ex. 5,10, 20 dates? or # months of knowing them?) What "sparks" your interest in wanting to be committed to that ONE person?? Uh...my gut? Instinct? 6th sense? Other suitable synonym? I don't think in very sophisticated ways when it comes to commitment, I don't think.
karlag Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 by one month i have one foot out the door exploring other options
You'reasian Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Hello All! I would really love to get some insight on your thoughts... What is the "average" length of time it takes for you to decide if you wanna move forward from "just dating" to "BF/GF" status?? (ex. 5,10, 20 dates? or # months of knowing them?) What "sparks" your interest in wanting to be committed to that ONE person?? 1. There's no set number to the first question. Wait & see approach. 2. It starts with an attraction. Continues with personality, chemistry, shared interests. Requires quality time spent with that person, getting to know them, seeing them through good and bad times.
startingover2009 Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 I don't think you can determine something like this by saying by this many dates I should know or by this time period we should be BF/GF. I have found that after a the second date I know if I want to continue seeing someone or not. No reason to wast their time or mine if I do not beleive it will ever go anywhere. I dated a girl for a year and a half and broke it off because I knew that I would never be in love with her. I also did not consider her to be my girlfriend, we went out at least once a week, talked on the phone all the time but were just dateing. I also had been seeing a girl for a couple of weeks and considered her my girlfriend. I think it all has to do with how you feel and how they feel. If you can't go five minutes and not think about the other person then it is time to go to the next level. If you find yourself thinking of the future and they are in it then it is time to go to the next level. Don't over think it, that will always screw things up. Enjoy it for what it is, and if things progress and develop then great.
Author XOXO13 Posted July 18, 2009 Author Posted July 18, 2009 Thanks everyone for responding! I really just needed peoples opinions on how they view such a topic. I wanna make sure that I'm not being impatient or "rushing" into things. And as the last poster said... "Don't over think it...." Which is what i tend to do! I'm kinda in a situation right now where were not quite on the same page... but then again, i'm not sure if I've been fair in giving him "enough time" to let things happen natuarally. We're spending this whole weekend together... So we'll see what happens.... *Wish me luck*
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