Author Thomas X Forever Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 I appreciate the empathy. Really, not enough people these days really care. And I have a feeling you do. You should count that as a blessing yourself... which I'm sure you do. Thank you for talking to me about those things. I hope your life is blessed and going well. I truly do. Even though I may be suffering, I sure as hell don't want everyone else down here with me.
wow123 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Thomas, I would rather feel nothing at all. Who likes being sad? And if you meet someone and fall in love will it last forever? Will you be happily married for the rest of your life? Will that matter because she may evenutally become unhappy. If I sound a little bit bitter it's because I am.
Thaddeus Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Personally, I rather have emotions for a limited period of time and then have the ability to just shut them off once I've integrated the lesson (if there is one).
Author Thomas X Forever Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 wow123, I understand why you're bitter. Losing your whole ****ing world is like death. They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I beg to differ... We're all here for you though, wow. We've all been hurt. Some more deeply than others. Obviously you have been hurt very deep. I can empathize with that. And lol @ thaddeus. That sounds pretty badass. Maybe if you were a cyborg, you could..
DustySaltus Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 What about if this is the peak of my life (relationship wise)? Leaving america and sitting on the shores of the mediterraenean with her sipping on a jack and coke watching the sunset..and have a GREAT time....now this. I don't know how it could get any better than that...the highs were high and the lows were low but maybe thats the highest i'm ever going to get..
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I appreciate the empathy. Really, not enough people these days really care. And I have a feeling you do. You should count that as a blessing yourself... which I'm sure you do. Thank you for talking to me about those things. I hope your life is blessed and going well. I truly do. Even though I may be suffering, I sure as hell don't want everyone else down here with me. You should go do something that brings you joy. All that good stuff is still around, you just have to force-immerse yourself in it. Yes, forcersion . It's the last thing you feel like doing, I know. But a few weeks of practice at enjoying life, and you might start to actually have a good time here and there. You could do some volunteer work.
Thornton Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I think I would rather feel sad than feel nothing at all... being completely emotionless wouldn't be a good thing. The problem is if you have the ability to feel good emotions then you also have the ability to feel bad ones like sadness - but I'm prepared to risk feeling sad in order to have the capacity to feel happy. I think the trick is to be in charge of your emotions rather than letting them rule you; too many people are emotionally driven and simply aren't in control of themselves. I also think that experiencing sadness ourselves is the only way we can ever learn compassion for others, so I guess it's worthwhile when you think about it like that. I consider many things in my life to be a blessing - probably more so than the average person. Most people go around with their eyes closed and don't see what's in the world around them, so they feel unhappy because they think the world is empty. I notice small things like a beautiful bug or a bird singing or a smell of wood smoke on the breeze, and I feel grateful for small things that make me happy. I might have lost someone I cared about, but I still have so many things - a pretty face and a bright mind and good parents, a safe place to live and food to eat - I'm even grateful for the things I don't have, like pain and illness - nobody ever thinks about how pleasant a non-headache is! People always say "I'll be happy when..." when I get my ex back, when I'm rich, when I lose weight... but if you had those things you probably still wouldn't be happy, because you'd just find something else to want. Happiness is more of an internal thing, and you can have it right now if you choose to... just be happy with what you've got. Desiring things is what makes you unhappy, and letting go of desire is very freeing, albeit very difficult. People need to live their lives and be grateful for what they have today, instead of wishing for the things they want tomorrow, or the things they had yesterday... easier said than done, I know. Often what we think we want isn't what's best for us anyway... like wanting an ex who really wasn't good for us. Sometimes your heart won't let go of one person until it has someone else, but if you're aware of that at least you have the hope of finding someone else and won't fixate so much on the person you lost.
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