iwanttolive Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 My bf had a rough day at work. On our way home, the bus braked suddenly and I stepped on his foot accidentally. Instead of helping me, he glared at me, with an (extremely) annoyed and pissed expression. I was taken aback and still very disturbed although he apologised already. He said he was not himself and he was even scared of himself then. We've only been together for 2 months. Does it say something about his personality or am I reading too much into this?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Hrm. It's hard to say. It could have been an isolated incident, or it could be that he temporarily dropped his mask to reveal his true self. Has he said anything about why his previous relationships ended? Do you talk to his family at all? Has anyone that personally knows him mentioned his temper? I'd definitely have my guard up for this to happen again because who knows - it could escalate. My bio-dad had a terrible temper. It started small - like your BF - and got worse. But, the mere fact that he mentioned it scared HIM could mean it was rare for him. So, yes - red flag up - but don't completely condemn him. It's hard to say off of one incident.
Author iwanttolive Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 According to him, his previous relationship ended because his ex wanted someone with the same religious belief. I've met his family. His mom and sis are friendly. He told me that he doesn't scold people. My red flag is up, but it's so frustrating and exhausting to keep dating and meeting men with intolerable inner demons. Temper is a definite no-no. Guess i'm just sick of slowly discovering that another relationship is heading for failure. I don't understand why most of my ex-es (4 out of 5) were mental cases. My first one was a manipulative control freak. Second one was the only ex that was okay. Third one has an ego as big as the universe "I AM YOUR BEST BOYFRIEND!" (Urrrgghh, sick!), could not tolerate a tiny criticism. Fourth one was totally demented. Scolded me for walking in front of him or behind him, for the way I held my handbag, for drinking water too fast. Fifth one was okay, but unfortunately commitment phobic. Do you see why I'm feeling so sick? I'm also extremely traumatised by my demented 4th ex. Now, I'm constantly jittery and on my toes because I'm afraid of making mistakes that would incur my bf's wrath. Different bf, should have given him a clean slate. But my trauma is lurking in the background!
Ronni_W Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 the bus braked suddenly and I stepped on his foot accidentally. Instead of helping me, Was his foot stepped on enough to be painful? Did you go flying? What help did you need? Did you apologize to him for stepping on his foot? He had a rough day; his foot got stepped on...what help did you need?
Author iwanttolive Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Hi Ronni.. I'm not sure whether it was painful, but even if it is I don't think it was that painful as he was wearing his sports shoes. I was wearing my running shoes which was cushioned. I was expecting him to at least hold me to resist my fall, instead of walking away looking pissed. Well, I don't know if I'm being petty here, so just asking for opinion. I'd accept it if I really am being petty and not understanding enough. I guess, I just need help from u guys to put things in perspective Thanks for replying, guys
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