wierdmunky Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I have a friend of 9 years, who had told a "mutual" friend about some things she was mad about. They happened to be about me, and how she thinks I am not there for her enough, don't listen, turn the conversation around to talk about myself all the time, and that she thinks we only hang out to pass the time. I had broken up with a fiance, and another ex within the last 2 yrs so I know I've been talking to her about them a lot. We vent a lot to each other and I know all her probs too. Our mutual friend told me that she had been wanting to confront me about this, and she hasn't yet, but she did confront me about something else, leaving this out. There's not doubt that I've there for her, I can name a ton, but I'm starting to think that maybe I don't understand her the way she wants me to. We have a really good time whenever we hang out, we talk about life, exchange ideas, laugh and joke. She was also gone to 4 different places this summer one after another ( NY, Hawaii, San Diego, Disneyland) so whenever I call she doesn't pick up, so I leave messages, emails, and texts. It's kind of a shock to hear it because if it's true she must have been stewing in it for the longest time. After she confronted me, she said what do u think I should do about this (diff issue), and I said not sure, its really up to you and how u feel, but if you feel like you need space, I'm not going to say I'm not going to be here when you need me back I'll always be here. I found out she thought this way about me after she confronted me, and mutual friend asked me how the talk went (the talk ended up being about mutual friend instead) he said he already knew we were going to talk, but not about this, I said we can't chat or hang out anymore. My friend doesn't know I know all this, and I feel bad for knowing. Should I even try to bring up the subject, or do you think she's going to not talk to me for months?
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