infiniteQuest Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We've had some trouble during the first two, but were successful in ironing out most of the issues as we improved our communication skills. For the past year, my boyfriend's job required him to be out of town most of the week. He comes homes one weekend out of two, but even when he is here he works crazy hours and is on the brink of a burnout. He does his best to make time for us, but his brain never seems to get a break from work, even when he is with me. As young people full of potential, we're definitely absorbed by our careers and "making it", enough that we spend a lot of time talking about them. I must admit that I find our intellectual bond extremely satisfying. We're discovering the world of office politics together, discussing starting a business, talk about society and our experiences with different types of people, technology, the list of "serious" topics goes on. I am not sure why, but serious stuff seems to be the only thing on our conversational menu for a couple of years now. It hit me hard when he decided to spend the weekend visiting a friend who lives close to his job, and apparently had so much fun that he "found himself" again. When he is with me, I am never able to drag him out like his friends do, and show him a great time. We do have fun when we're together, but I am never able to be the bubbly, energetic, passionate person that I am when I am entertaining my own friends. I do get moments when I feel passionate about something around him, but I feel like my interaction with him is shutting my passion down rather than firing it up as it happens with some other people. He seems to feel the same way. When he's in a social setting, he puts up the "carefree party boy" image, which I've been longing to see resurface lately. Has somebody else experienced this? A relationship that only brings out the serious side of two people? This is causing serious problems in the romance department as well...
FIREMAN Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 By ANY chance...Does your name start with an "L" and you're from NJ? You sound Exactly like my relationship!!! If so, I love you with all of my heart and want "us" to work out. I think we've both put up barriers and aren't allowing our fun sides to show, because we're both afraid of how great our relationship really is. In fact, if we're "ourselves" like in the beginning, we'd have no problems. But our fears are not allowing us to be ourselves. If you aren't my GF, then by all means, give me your input too...please.
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