Soul Bear Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 just in case you dont know what happened, at the weekend i saw a mutual friend whom i havent seen in years. Spent saturday night chilling out, We shared a bed (no we didnt 'do it') on sunday night, shared a kiss or 2 but both withdrew for some reason or another that was never disclosed, and talked all night long about how ****ty our ex's had been to us. We almost slept together but she stated that she didnt want to be the 'rebound' girl with which i agreed. slept very little and i woke up and she just held my hand for 2 hours before i had to go to work.... I txt her yesterday making sure she got back to scotland ok and said it was strange being back at our friends bro's house without her, she replied how wonderful it was to wake up next to me and that she missed me too... Well, i have found myself thinking of her increseingly more these last 2 days.... The strange part is that she is and Aries...same as my ex..i find i have a starnge connection with aries women being a leo..... I dont quite know what to make of it....am i infatuated?....am i having feelings of something else?...am i having rebound feelings even tho we didnt do anything? im confused as to what i feel.... I want to txt her...but i have this silly illusion that i should wait a few more days so as not to seem desperate as i only txt her lasnight and she never replied to my last txt...a part of me wants to tell her that i have found myself thinking of her and am looking fwd to seeing her again.... if you want more details please just ask as i skimmed over it here. Wanted to keep it short and to the point.... I didnt miss my ex when i was with her. This is so strange?!!!
Road To Joy Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 This is so strange?!!! And also GOOD! You're doing great, holy sh*t, I'm so proud of you. This does sounds like the rebound, but just 'cause it's a rebound doesn't mean it can't last I think it's great you're both watching out for her feelings. I would suggest not to do anything too drastic for a while (sex). Keep it innocent, and I think it's essential to take it slow. So neither of you are at risk for getting hurt. Do the innocent flirting, holding hands, kissing, and having sleepovers But again, don't do anything too drastic. Have fun the old fashion way! Eat pizza and watch movies on a weekend night, play video games together. Lol, I know it sounds like a kiddie friendship but I'm sure it's different than what you've had lately and what you had with your ex. And in this case, different = good. Besides, it's good to build a friendship, and this is definitely a unique way for adults to do that. As the (flirty) friendship grows, so will the feelings. Gradually, slowly. So you don't get scared and well, yknow, to prevent every other negative thing from happening. Good luck!
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 SB...that's great that you have "that feeling" somewhat again...BUT, Don't go and get hung up on the first one that comes along. I know you guys are old friends,ect..so, the feelings are going to come easy. You need to play the field a bit, my friend. There's alot of beautiful women out there that deserve their piece of "the bear"! Don't zone in too much, too quick, Ya know? You're a newly single guy, in a new area..have fun with it! Stay in touch with her of course! But, live it up, my man!
fabulous_chk Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 My love, don't have sex with her please! Give it a chance to grow when both of you are stable and the emotional dusts have settled. I always told you rebounds are useful, as long as they know what's up. Both of you are lonely and in need of company. Make it a positive relationship. Love ya my bear. The world is wonderful, isn't it? This is so exciting!!!! New places, new people, new life. I'm in love with life right now, and you will be too! :love:
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