lucy9216 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 So I met a guy on a online dating website we sent emails and texts back and forth for the first month. It was difficult to set up a date to meet because we both have kids with conflicting schedules. So I finally met him last week, he seemed reallly nice and sincere I did like him and I could tell he liked me too. At the end of the night when we said goodbye it was a little awkward, I think he tried to give me a hug or something but it looked like he was unsure??? he said he wanted to see me again, I told him I would like that. He told me to call him then I said well you can call me too you know. When I got to my car I thought wow that was kinda weird, so I decided to send a text to him saying that I did have a good time I would like to hang out again sometime and I hope to hear from him goodnite. He responded with saying you will hear from me I had a great time too and we should hang out again soon. Well today was one week since we met and I had not heard from him, I logged into the account we met on and he had not been active until last night. So I thought hmmm... that is weird maybe I should have contacted him since I did not reply to his last text. So I texted him today and said hi, he responded we texted for a few minutes, then I told him I had a great time last week, he said he did too and we should hang out again soon so I agreed then he agreed again So I said well you know when I am available. I waited an hour no response, so I sent one more text that said maybe the question is when are you availble? this was an hour and a half ago and still no response. He is sometimes flirty with his texts and calls me hot stuff and says he wants to plan for us to hang out again but then he gets flaky??? I feel like I am doing the chasing now and he should be showing a bit more interest then he is right? I am thinking I may need to next this one.
tkgirl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 So I met a guy on a online dating website we sent emails and texts back and forth for the first month. It was difficult to set up a date to meet because we both have kids with conflicting schedules. So I finally met him last week, he seemed reallly nice and sincere I did like him and I could tell he liked me too. At the end of the night when we said goodbye it was a little awkward, I think he tried to give me a hug or something but it looked like he was unsure??? he said he wanted to see me again, I told him I would like that. He told me to call him then I said well you can call me too you know. When I got to my car I thought wow that was kinda weird, so I decided to send a text to him saying that I did have a good time I would like to hang out again sometime and I hope to hear from him goodnite. He responded with saying you will hear from me I had a great time too and we should hang out again soon. Well today was one week since we met and I had not heard from him, I logged into the account we met on and he had not been active until last night. So I thought hmmm... that is weird maybe I should have contacted him since I did not reply to his last text. So I texted him today and said hi, he responded we texted for a few minutes, then I told him I had a great time last week, he said he did too and we should hang out again soon so I agreed then he agreed again So I said well you know when I am available. I waited an hour no response, so I sent one more text that said maybe the question is when are you availble? this was an hour and a half ago and still no response. He is sometimes flirty with his texts and calls me hot stuff and says he wants to plan for us to hang out again but then he gets flaky??? I feel like I am doing the chasing now and he should be showing a bit more interest then he is right? I am thinking I may need to next this one. Online dating can be tricky.. it sounds like he is probably dating (or trying to date) a few women. If I were you I'd pull waaaaaaaay back. Don't contact him again... he knows you are interested in seeing him again... the ball's in his court now. If he's smart he'll ask you out again... but if not then definitely "NEXT"! his loss, right?
paddington bear Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Bad sign. You showed you liked him on the date, you texted him after the date, again showing that you are open for him to contact you and see you again, but he didn't take the bait. I would stop communicating with him. If he liked you, you've shown him that you won't reject him should he contact you again, so he has no excuse not to contact you if he feels the same way. Any guy who's told me to call him, I'm afraid to say, is not interested. Guys who are interested always call, always try to set up the next day, always want to see you again, despite conflicting schedules. Set up some other dates yourself, forget about this guy. Should he contact you in a while, decide then whether you want to see him again or not, you might at that stage have met someone who doesn't want to be chased and tell him bye-bye, you missed your chance.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Yes, you are all right. I was pretty much thinking the same thing, he should be showing more interest in me or trying to pursue me a bit more than he is. I had my profile hidden after we met so I just unhid it and updated my profile and will start setting up other dates. I was just confused because when I talked to him and when I met him, he definatley seemed interested and asked me alot of questions about me. We also had a lot of good things in common he could have had potential but atleast it was early enough so I can move on without any real hard feelings about this one. I also got a strong feeling from him that he may not be completely over his ex, if this is true than it is definatley a good thing I did not get too involved with him.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Well it has been 3 hours still no response :-( yeah I am a little bummed but really he is just some guy. I was thinking that if I still don't hear from him by tomorrow just sending him an email or text saying something like "I beleive you are not very intersted and that is okay no hard feelings. You seem like a really nice guy, it was nice talking to you and I wish you the best." Any thoughts? bad idea?
tkgirl Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Well it has been 3 hours still no response :-( yeah I am a little bummed but really he is just some guy. I was thinking that if I still don't hear from him by tomorrow just sending him an email or text saying something like "I beleive you are not very intersted and that is okay no hard feelings. You seem like a really nice guy, it was nice talking to you and I wish you the best." Any thoughts? bad idea? no, I don't think you should to send him that email. If you can, just let it go now. The way he is acting towards you would turn me way off... I think if he does decide to grace you with a response, I would either a. not respond or b. say thanks but no thanks. He may have seemed like a nice guy, but you barely know him... and now he's being a big flake. You've given him more than enough chances... he's not even worth thinking about any more.... so, NEXT!
D-Lish Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Well it has been 3 hours still no response :-( yeah I am a little bummed but really he is just some guy. I was thinking that if I still don't hear from him by tomorrow just sending him an email or text saying something like "I beleive you are not very intersted and that is okay no hard feelings. You seem like a really nice guy, it was nice talking to you and I wish you the best." Any thoughts? bad idea? Yes, it's a bad idea to send that text. From the beginning you've been the one trying too hard to get his attention, and getting little in return. You've been chasing him too much girl! When a guy is interested, he will be more responsive and eager than this guy has been!
Author lucy9216 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Yeah he has been really flaky, he did show some interest and would initiate contact every 3 days at first and he even flirted a little with me today and he is the one that said he wanted to see me again and then flaked again! but ya know after I met him he didn't even walk me to my car? it was late and I had parked far, that really irritated me too. This isn't the kind of attitude I would want to deal with regularly anyways, he is too flaky and not very considerate. I will not send him that message, thank you.
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