he is already making decisions about retirement???

[aloneanddepressed]

Not sure if this topic is appropriate for this forum, but I decided to post it to the general relationship discussion. I have briefly spoken with a new guy, and he just turned 30. He tells me he is planning on retiring at his job(, where he has been 7 years. He didn't go to college or anything, which is fine..not holding that against him, but his job is not that great either. I personally think its great if he really enjoys his job and all, but at the same time, I'm thinking, why make those sort of decisions at such an early age? I consider myself more of an ambitious person, and I can't see myself staying at one job for the rest of my life, much less making that statement to someone, that I plan on retiring at my job. Are those the type of decisions someone of such an early age would/should make? Another thing is, he lives in a very small town, and doesn't seem to have any plans on moving. I eventually want to relocate somewhere else and live, as well as pursue new jobs/opportunities. He doesn't seem to have a desire. I know his ideas/decisions could change, but still. What do you think? Thanks

[Thaddeus]

Are those the type of decisions someone of such an early age would/should make?

Yes. Planning early for retirement is an excellent financial decision. Now, whether he'll stay in his current job or current town is another matter entirely, but if he's got his financial house in order by the time retirement comes around he'll be way ahead of most people.

 

Smart dude.

[aloneanddepressed]

Yes. Planning early for retirement is an excellent financial decision. Now, whether he'll stay in his current job or current town is another matter entirely, but if he's got his financial house in order by the time retirement comes around he'll be way ahead of most people.

 

Smart dude.

 

Well, he said he does not plan on leaving his current job and will retire from there, so I'm assuming he is going to stay there and retire, unless of course he is fired. It just sounds like he has NO desire to do anything else and he just turned 30. That personally is not very appealing, although yes I guess is smart in some ways. I think someone of such a young age could be a little more open minded. Its not like he is 50.

[GorillaTheater]

Well, he said he does not plan on leaving his current job and will retire from there, so I'm assuming he is going to stay there and retire, unless of course he is fired. It just sounds like he has NO desire to do anything else and he just turned 30. That personally is not very appealing, although yes I guess is smart in some ways. I think someone of such a young age could be a little more open minded. Its not like he is 50.

 

Another way to look at it is that he's a blessed man for having a job he enjoys so much. That's rarer than you might think.

 

How do you define "ambition"?

[Thaddeus]

There's an undercurrent that I just picked up on here (sorry, I'm operating on about 4 hours sleep) and it was sparked by GT's question, "How do you define 'ambition'?"

 

In North America and probably many other parts of the world, there's this pervading myth that if one isn't actively working to make more money or get a bigger house or earn that big promotion or whatever, then there's something wrong with them.

 

It can be summed up in that most vicious and over-used of phrases, "If you're not growing, you're dying."

 

I call bollocks on that.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong, and everything right, with being content with what you have and without a desire for more stuff and stress in one's life. If you're not happy where you are, getting more stuff or that next promotion or whatever isn't going to make your life any better.

 

Trust me on this... been there, done that. Worked myself silly and what did it get me? More stress.

 

Screw it.

 

It sounds like this fellow that aloneanddepressed is discussing has figured that out.

[norajane]

This guy wants to live in his small town and stay in his current job forever.

 

Regardless of anything else, if that's not what you picture for your future, then he's not the guy for you.

 

If you are more adventurous and ambitious, this will cause big problems for you as a couple if you were to stay together long term.

[aloneanddepressed]

This guy wants to live in his small town and stay in his current job forever.

 

Regardless of anything else, if that's not what you picture for your future, then he's not the guy for you.

 

If you are more adventurous and ambitious, this will cause big problems for you as a couple if you were to stay together long term.

 

Yes, it does seem like this is the "plan". I hate to judge someone, because people do change, but I've honestly never spoken to someone of such a young age, talking about staying in current job, and planning to retire from it. Its definitely not the ideal picture for me. I am wondering if he was just saying that to appeal to me like he has a stable job? I don't know.....