Serendipity09 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Hi, I have never done this before...but it seems the perfect place to get this off my chest. And hopefully some advice. I am 34, divorced with 2 young teenage children that reside with their Father in another state. (that's a looong different story). Anyhow.....I have a huge crush on a much younger man.....I feel like a teenager.....I just can't stop thinking about him. I find myself making excuses to see him even to speak about him. He just makes me weak at the knees when he is around. But goodness....It just couldn't be. He is way too young for me (24) or I am way too old for him ( If you prefer ). I know nothing could ever come of it. I'm going insane not being able to get him out of my head! I am a 34 year old woman for goodness sake I should be able to control my emotions!! What on earth is wrong with me??? arrgghhhh
Thaddeus Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Personally, I don't see anything at all wrong with this. If you and he are both on the same page, why all the angst? Have you asked him out?
Author Serendipity09 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 I think the reason for my angst is because I have a 15 year old son..... And no I haven't asked him out....at the moment it is as if we are awkward teenagers..lol
GorillaTheater Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I've got to echo Thadd, I don't really see this as that big of a deal. It's possible that you'll find you don't have enough in common to sustain a relationship but hell, that's true in all cases. Good luck, and have fun.
Thaddeus Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 More background might be required. How did you meet? Do you work together? Do you get the sense that he feels some sexual tension between the two of you as well?
Author Serendipity09 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Thankyou!! that's the thing we do have alot in common. We get on like a house on fire. The funny thing is I have known him for quite some time and while I didn't not like him i wasn't that fond of him either. In the last few weeks we have spent some considerable time together and really gotten to know each other. And then bang like a bolt of lightening I can't get him off my mind. I find myself making excuses to see him and even just to talk about him. I am 34 for goodness sake I feel as though I shouldn't be behaving this way.
Thaddeus Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I am 34 for goodness sake I feel as though I shouldn't be behaving this way. Says who? I'm 50 and I still get smitten on occasion. He may be shy or intimidated around you, so from the sounds of it you might have to make the first move. Ask him out. Doesn't have to be anything fancy - no overnight trip to Paris or anything like that - just go for a coffee somewhere and shoot the general breeze.
Author Serendipity09 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 More background might be required. How did you meet? Do you work together? Do you get the sense that he feels some sexual tension between the two of you as well? He is an employee at my best friends business that has become a friend within our circle. And yes I'm quite sure he feels the sexual tension too.
GorillaTheater Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I am 34 for goodness sake I feel as though I shouldn't be behaving this way. You talk as though you're over the hill or something. 34 seems pretty young to me. Is this a mutual thing, as far as you can tell? Unrequitted love/lust is a bitch, regardless of age differences.
Author Serendipity09 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Thanks so much for your comments guys. I know I sound as though I'm over the hill...lol I am always young at heart...and I guess I feel somewhat foolish for having a "crush" for a start let alone on someone so much younger than me.
Thaddeus Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Go for it. As I remember when I was that age, 24-year-old men have the stamina of a thoroughbred racehorse.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 What on earth is wrong with me??? arrgghhhh Nothing really. at 34, you probably don't look all that much different from a 24 year old. I personally will never date anyone more than 5 years my younger or older again. right now....not a problem for you. But what happens when you are in your 50's...the wrinkles start becoming apparant, and he still looks relatively young? Don't think he'll be looking to better deal you? Everyone says age is just a number.....but when one of the numbers gets to be too high, it starts to become a problem. Not always, but more than not I believe. nobody ever looks to the future. So if the idea is to have fun now, go ahead. If the idea is that you think you might want a future.....well, I'd advise against it and find someone you can grow old with.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Thanks so much for your comments guys. I know I sound as though I'm over the hill...lol I am always young at heart...and I guess I feel somewhat foolish for having a "crush" for a start let alone on someone so much younger than me. you might also consider this. The age difference between you is probably higher than the age difference between him and at least one of your teenage kids(if you have daughters). They could just as easily date him.
Billie63 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I don't think 10 years is that big a deal to be honest. You've established that the two of you get along fine so keep an open mind about dating him. I'm 46 and my boy is 27. It helps that I look 12 years younger than my true age and he looks five years older than 27 so I don't look like a mum taking her son for a walk when we go down the street. We like the same music, we laugh at the same things and the sex is fantastic. Of course it won't last, I think 19 years is just too big a gap - he has a child but I'm sure he'd like more. But we are both enjoying each other's company right now and I find him adorable. Life is very short and every woman should discover the delights of the younger man at least once in her life. So go for it!
utterer of lies Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Hi, I have never done this before...but it seems the perfect place to get this off my chest. And hopefully some advice. I am 34, divorced with 2 young teenage children that reside with their Father in another state. (that's a looong different story). Anyhow.....I have a huge crush on a much younger man.....I feel like a teenager.....I just can't stop thinking about him. I find myself making excuses to see him even to speak about him. He just makes me weak at the knees when he is around. But goodness....It just couldn't be. He is way too young for me (24) or I am way too old for him ( If you prefer ). I know nothing could ever come of it. I'm going insane not being able to get him out of my head! I am a 34 year old woman for goodness sake I should be able to control my emotions!! What on earth is wrong with me??? arrgghhhh Nothing. A friend of mine is 29 and has an affair with a 40yo. Enjoy life.
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