Mary3 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 1. They'll Give You Pause Ask a simple, straightforward question — say, "Where were you last night?" or even "Are you cheating on me?" If there's a long pause or he repeats the question before answering, that's trouble. 2. They Can't Lie in Reverse If someone is telling a story you find fishy, ask questions that force him to relate events in a different order. While a person who's concocted a false story can tell it in a,b,c,d order, he'll often find it almost impossible to tell it in d,c,b,a order. 3. They'll Shrug at Odd Times If he's saying something definitive — "I was with my buddies last night!" — while shrugging one or both shoulders, watch out. The movement indicates that he's subconsciously remaining uncommitted to what he's saying. 4. They Have Big Buts Listen for phrases like this: "I know you'll think this is strange, but..." or "You're not going to believe this, but..." Chances are, whatever comes next is a lie. 5. Their Tongues Don't Lie If you ask someone a question and he momentarily flicks out his tongue or licks his lips before answering, he believes he's about to get away with something. 6. They'll Hold Your Gaze Sometimes a liar is so intent on proving his sincerity he'll stare into your eyes for an uncomfortably long time, trying to prove to you that he has nothing to hide. 7. They Can't Adapt Just as a liar is unable to reverse the order of events in a falsehood, he also has trouble adjusting when one component is disproven. So if you're able to irrefutably call him out on one facet of a lie and he still refuses to change his story, you can be pretty sure that the rest is B.S. too. 8. They'll Give You a Hand A liar doesn't want you to examine what he says too closely. And so he'll often unconsciously bring a hand to his face — to scratch a nose, or rub an eye, or stroke a chin — in an attempt to "block" the words as they're coming out of his mouth.
OpenBook Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I always heard their pupils dilate while they're spinning a big one. Of course, their pupils also dilate when they get aroused looking at you. So it's a Catch-22. (I wonder if there's a connection, between the lying and the arousal... hmmmmm...)
Bejita463 Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 1. They'll Give You Pause Ask a simple, straightforward question — say, "Where were you last night?" or even "Are you cheating on me?" If there's a long pause or he repeats the question before answering, that's trouble. I'm an extremely honest person, and I pause a lot when I know what I am next about to say has any level of real significance, to ensure that I do not accidentally word something poorly. I disagree with this one. 2. They Can't Lie in Reverse If someone is telling a story you find fishy, ask questions that force him to relate events in a different order. While a person who's concocted a false story can tell it in a,b,c,d order, he'll often find it almost impossible to tell it in d,c,b,a order. No one has ever asked me to do this, so I cannot really offer an opinion on it. A well constructed lie would beat this though, and you shouldn't need tricks to beat bad lies. 3. They'll Shrug at Odd Times If he's saying something definitive — "I was with my buddies last night!" — while shrugging one or both shoulders, watch out. The movement indicates that he's subconsciously remaining uncommitted to what he's saying./QUOTE] It would be better to pay attention to what a person typically does with their eyes when they are in thought. The truth doesn't require the level of thought that creates this reaction, and almost everyone subconsciously does something with their eyes when in serious thought. Shrugging could easily indicate indifference, which you will likely be met with if what you are asking they don't consider to be your business, or consequential. 4. They Have Big Buts Listen for phrases like this: "I know you'll think this is strange, but..." or "You're not going to believe this, but..." Chances are, whatever comes next is a lie. I don't agree. I preface statements with "You probably won't believe this" when I truly believe that is the case, but it doesn't mean I am lying. I am a strange dude though, so I don't often expect people to see things through the same filters I have. 5. Their Tongues Don't Lie If you ask someone a question and he momentarily flicks out his tongue or licks his lips before answering, he believes he's about to get away with something. 6. They'll Hold Your Gaze Sometimes a liar is so intent on proving his sincerity he'll stare into your eyes for an uncomfortably long time, trying to prove to you that he has nothing to hide. 7. They Can't Adapt Just as a liar is unable to reverse the order of events in a falsehood, he also has trouble adjusting when one component is disproven. So if you're able to irrefutably call him out on one facet of a lie and he still refuses to change his story, you can be pretty sure that the rest is B.S. too. 8. They'll Give You a Hand A liar doesn't want you to examine what he says too closely. And so he'll often unconsciously bring a hand to his face — to scratch a nose, or rub an eye, or stroke a chin — in an attempt to "block" the words as they're coming out of his mouth. I don't really agree with these. Analyzing someone's every movement to this degree will allow you to come to pretty much conclusion you can possibly come to.
AlektraClementine Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Yeah. I'd have to say the gut is pretty reliable. Sucks, though. Can't really use it as evidence. Believe me, I've tried Bottom line, if you are with someone and you think they're a liar it's probably best to move on to someone else.
Author Mary3 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 I knew a guy at work and I asked him a question ( I knew the truth ) and he brought his hand up to his nose rubbing the side of it , each time he lied he did this,. So # 8 seemed to be true in his case.
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