**A draft of a text conversation i had with my ex.. read and comment, thanks

[Charmaine_Champagne]

hey i wrote in another thread about my ex attention seeking and contacting me claiming he heard i was pregnant! (lol, i'm not) i've been NC for 5months.. he ended things with me, we were first loves together 6 years when he messed me around and cowardly disappeared on me. i never got closure or answers as to why. tho since then every month or so he will send me some form of an attention-seeking txt msg or email. i've been NC in that time as i believe if he wants to talk to me he should be an adult & at least have the balls to call me and apologize, not send me a childish meaningless text message to get my attention. i miss him so much tho.

 

anyway i decided that i would break my 150 days NC and answer him because the pregnancy claim was just so absurd i felt i had to answer (perhaps that is why he sent such an obscure msg) anyway i'm just gonna list below how our brief 'conversation' through text messages went and i'd like it if you guys could tell me if you think i did ok? (i know some of you should say i shouldn't have answered at all) but can you guys just tell me what you make of this conversation? and maybe what he might have wanted to gain from it, etc? and did i handle it ok?

 

HIM: ''heard you're knocked up. congratulations''

 

ME: (replying 6 hours later)

''nah, i'm not that stupid. you've sent that to the wrong girl.''

 

HIM: (replying immediately after)

''nope, **** told me, he said he saw you and your bump.. how are you anyway?''

 

(i didn't reply to his above msg then the next day (waiting 24 hours later) i text him back this...)

 

ME: ''omg, what a load of sh*t. that's a f*ckin insult. you're as mental as he is then if you believe that''

 

HIM: (replies immediately) ''ok no problem, how are ya?''

 

(i don't reply, then 10 minutes later he sends another text...)

 

HIM: ''Did ya pass at university?''

 

ME: (20 minutes later) ''i'm great, tho i shouldn't have to explain myself to you anyway.. yeh i graduated last week''

 

HIM: (immediately replies) ''congratulations, what you gonna do with yourself next year?''

 

ME: ''thanks, i'm still choosing.''

 

that is where the conversation ended, a week ago and i have heard nothing since.

 

..So what do u guys make of this, please be honest. did i do ok?.. or was i too harsh/dry esp with my swearing? was this his way of reaching out to me and now i've ruined it by being too harsh/rude to him? do you think he still cares or just wanted to ease his guilt... tho please remember he ended things with me, very cruelly..

 

please comment...

[2sure]

You did not respond in a rude or harsh way or chase him away...

 

He contacted you with insults. Knocked Up?? A friend of his said you had a belly bump? Those are insults and you responded correctly. He was bored and contacted you with antagonizing comments. You miss this?

 

Keep NC. Soon you will not miss him and will not be attracted to the kind of person capable of this crap.

[Charmaine_Champagne]

thanks, it's been 1 week now and i was toying with the idea of texting him again and saying something like ''did u make the whole pregnancy thing up for a joke or something'' because i'm starting to feel stupid for responding back to him now thinking that he knew i wouldn't be pregnant and only did it for attention.

 

but if i send that he might start messing me around again and playing with my emotions so i should prob stick to NC. just i still have things i wanna say to him and i'm now kinda angry thinking how dare he send me such a derogatory comment after months of ignoring me

[GorillaTheater]

thanks, it's been 1 week now and i was toying with the idea of texting him again and saying something like ''did u make the whole pregnancy thing up for a joke or something'' because i'm starting to feel stupid for responding back to him now thinking that he knew i wouldn't be pregnant and only did it for attention.

 

I wouldn't have recommended responding, but what's done is done. But yeah, from now on stick to NC. Don't be caught up in his game.

[Thaddeus]

You already know what to do. Keep up with the NC and that's that.

 

By the way, I gotta tell ya... I'd be extremely wary of posting private conversations online. I understand your intent and pretty much know that it's not malicious, but still, seeing a private conversation posted to the world is, in my opinion, out of line. No offence intended, just an observation.

[Charmaine_Champagne]

damn, i never thought of it like that, i just wanted opinions of if i did ok in talking with him and maybe gauge what he wanted from me through the conversation.. now i'm worried he might see it.. are there any ways of deleting threads?

[Thaddeus]

are there any ways of deleting threads?

Contact a moderator, they may be able to edit after-the-fact.

 

Reason that I mention it is because I got caught once a couple of years back. I sent a very nice, and somewhat steamy , email to a FWB of mine that she mistakenly (so she says) forwarded to a bunch of her friends and it got back to me.

 

Needless to say, it was somewhat embarassing. No real harm done in that case, but still, I was pretty choked when I found out that a private communication of mine was made available publicly.

[hopesndreams]

I understand your intent and pretty much know that it's not malicious, but still, seeing a private conversation posted to the world is, in my opinion, out of line.

 

I don't agree.

[Charmaine_Champagne]

i def didn't post this up to be malicious, i'd seen other ppl on here post up this kind of thing before so i posted my conversation up to get feedback on whether i responded ok to my ex and maybe gain some insight into what other peoples perspective is on what the hell my ex is playing at!

 

i'd still like afew more opinions on my initial post in this thread. i just wanna know if i did ok and what my ex wants from me? he got rid of me 5 months ago, i left without hounding him too much and went NC and now he contacts me with this ludicrous claim.. then when i correct him, he's just like casually ''oh ok, so how are you?'' it's crazy.

 

i'd like some more ppl to read the start of this thread and give their opinion, then i think i'll get in touch with the moderator and try to get it deleted since the content is quite personal. i know it will seem trivial, but this conversation- albeit an exchange of afew texts- was a really big deal for me because prior to this i'd been strict NC for 150 days

 

thanks guys

[NopeNah]

I think you're way over thinking all of this. He was merely fishing(like I said yesterday). I also wouldn't worry about having the text deleted as it's nothing personal really..there's no names,ecplicits,ect.. Go NC on him and who cares "how you came off" in the convo? You really still that hung up on what this guy thinks of you?

[D-Lish]

He sent it to be a douche.

Now he has you all riled up as intended.

 

Do not send him any more replies. Your responses to anything he has to say gives him power- he knows he can still affect you. You want to send him the message that he doesn't affect you- silence says that best.