WiseOne1 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 None of you might not remember any of my threads on my EX GF, we broke up around a year ago, and since we were best friends 5 years before hooking up, I did not go NC, I stayed in contact for for the entire year, so can you imagine the pain, but yea out of that whole 6 years out of friendship and relationship, we never stopped talking, I think I was so attached to her because we use to talk 18 hours a day, I "really" mean 18 hours a day even when we were at work, or sleep, we slept on the phone together, the whole crazy 9 yards. I attempted NC alot of times, she cried for about 6 hours str8 once, I mean really cried, like someone killed one of her family member each hour. So that stopped me from going NC, also I would tell her all the time never to call me again, and she still would! And when I did not answer the phone she would call maybe 8 times a day. This thread is about her EX BF, her and I were going together for around 9 months, and he came back out of the blue!!!!!!! I mean he didn't even tell her he wanted to break up, he just changed all of his numbers and stopped calling, and they were going together for 3 years during the time "LDR". So he came back out of the blue and she went crazy, broke up with me because she says she was confused, and I was really pissed because I couldnt believe she were actually considering taking someone back who left without any warning, just left....?? He bassically only wanted her for sex during that time, she was a virgin and he asked her maybe 5 times a day over the phone, are you still a virgin? So to me he only wanted sex then, seeing that it was 90% of his conversation. So we got backtogether after he saying that she had choose me over him, I felt like he just kicked her to the curve again and she was to embarrased to tell me, but she swears she choose me over him. We broke up 9 months later because she says that I treated her bad and didn't treat her normal after all that had happened, I feel like I did, but I feels like she just wanted another "*******" that reminded her of her ex. I stayed in contact with her the last year, until I just recently stopped answering any of her calls, I want to be like her EX BF, he was a legend at ditching girls and neverrrrrr looking back, he didnt even have to think twice about NC, if things werent going his way, he just disappered, and I feel weak compared to him, because hes what I want to be, never caring about her, always running off, coming back maybe every year when hes bored. Bassically I wish I could have never gave a fu** about her just like he didnt, is there anything wrong with wanting to be like him, I been on NC for about 2 weeks and shes called 5 times and left 3 text messages.
Taucher Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Why do you want to be like him? Anyway, it's easy to be like him. Just date girls you have no interest in. He probably has not met anyone who is special to him, he has probably not been in love (or maybe was in love once and got VERY hurt which might be another explanation for his behaviour now). EIther way, everyone is basically the same. If you are in love with someone, you dont behave like that. T
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Why do you want to be like him? Anyway, it's easy to be like him. Just date girls you have no interest in. He probably has not met anyone who is special to him, he has probably not been in love (or maybe was in love once and got VERY hurt which might be another explanation for his behaviour now). EIther way, everyone is basically the same. If you are in love with someone, you dont behave like that. T I agree fully, but I also feel that he just quickly forgets women and doesnt care, I feel that he's what a man should be, strong, confident, not begging, not going to be a door mat, it was as simple as if he didnt get what he wanted, he was gone. See If I could be like him I wouldnt be tempted to talk to her.
sedgwick Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 So you want to be another guy who breaks women's hearts and treats us like sh*t instead a caring person with empathy and integrity? REALLY?
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 So you want to be another guy who breaks women's hearts and treats us like sh*t instead a caring person with empathy and integrity? REALLY? Im not going to be a long discussion and try to get around answering it, so im going to say YES!!!! I"ve always hated being a nice guy, I have friends, relatives, and etc, that does great being the "*******s" they are, and although I would rather be a *******, I don't want to be it towards any other woman in the world besides her. See this is what im saying in the thread, I don't want to care about her, MY EX GF!!!! See hes the only guy out of her past that didnt put up with her games and didnt put up with her crap, he didnt even care when she wanted to commit sucide, im bassically saying that im way more caring than he is when it comes to her. I want to be able to not even think about no picking up the phone when she calls, when she aggravates me I want to be able to tell her to f*** off, when she told me she think we'd be better as friends, I wanted to be able to tell her to kick rocks. See there are all the good traits he had, that stopped him for getting hurt, but nooooo I had to be MR. Caring.
sedgwick Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I'll take the guy who cares over the cruel guy any day. Any woman with half a brain will do the same. Cruel jackasses are a dime a dozen.
BCCA Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Wiseone, I think the misconception you have is that this guy is this way because thats who he is, when in reality, he only acted the way he did because he didnt care about your ex. He didnt give a crap what she thought, or how what he did affected her. Thats something you cant fake, you just cant pretend not to care if you do. I want to be able to not even think about no picking up the phone when she calls, when she aggravates me I want to be able to tell her to f*** off, when she told me she think we'd be better as friends, I wanted to be able to tell her to kick rocks. Thats easy. First, assume she isnt going to call. She probably wont. Next, stay NC and you wont have to worry about her aggrivating you or saying anything about being friends. Problem solved.
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Guys, its a coping forum, bassically I have to get theses feeling out the best way I feel, which is LoveShack, I don't really want to be a ******* or anything close to that, all im saying that when it comes to my ex, I wish I was.
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Guys, its a coping forum, bassically I have to get theses feeling out the best way I feel, which is LoveShack, I don't really want to be a ******* or anything close to that, all im saying that when it comes to my ex, I wish I was. I get what you're saying. In my weaker times with my ex I told her "I wish I didn't love you,that way this wouldn't affect me like it is".. now I don't feel that way at all. I'm glad for the love we shared in the past!
kizik Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 WiseOne, while right now you may wish you were an a**hole, just know that that way of living is empty and it hurts people. Again: being an a**hole hurts people. Damages them for life, in some cases. I'm guessing you're young - 21 thru 25. Women at that age loooove a**holes. Reason being that those little princesses are so used to people like you (and an earlier me) fawning over them, that the guy who DOESN'T and instead treats them with disdain is somehow "intriguing". It's sick and weird and counter-intuitive, but that's how a lot of young girls are: dumb, spoiled, and practicing their desire to be treated like sh*t. They looove a mystery, and it's a mystery to them as to WHY some guy would put them down, insult or abuse them, or are simply indifferent. "Why doesn't he like me?" In ten years' time, women will want a guy exactly like you. Unfortunately for now, they don't, cuz they're very, very stupid and as another user said a couple days ago, "they're still fascinated by the magical power they can exude using the thing between their legs."
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 I get what you're saying. In my weaker times with my ex I told her "I wish I didn't love you,that way this wouldn't affect me like it is".. now I don't feel that way at all. I'm glad for the love we shared in the past! Thanks P4D
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 WiseOne, while right now you may wish you were an a**hole, just know that that way of living is empty and it hurts people. Again: being an a**hole hurts people. Damages them for life, in some cases. I'm guessing you're young - 21 thru 25. Women at that age loooove a**holes. Reason being that those little princesses are so used to people like you (and an earlier me) fawning over them, that the guy who DOESN'T and instead treats them with disdain is somehow "intriguing". It's sick and weird and counter-intuitive, but that's how a lot of young girls are: dumb, spoiled, and practicing their desire to be treated like sh*t. They looove a mystery, and it's a mystery to them as to WHY some guy would put them down, insult or abuse them, or are simply indifferent. "Why doesn't he like me?" In ten years' time, women will want a guy exactly like you. Unfortunately for now, they don't, cuz they're very, very stupid and as another user said a couple days ago, "they're still fascinated by the magical power they can exude using the thing between their legs." Well when those 10 years come around I dont want anything to do with one of those females, because not only did you leave out to part that the only reason they want a nice guy at that point is because they guys they want are chasing the 18 - 25 year old girls, so I personally believe that they never learn there lesson, its just for a fact they know they cannot compete with a young 18 year old girl, when they that olderrrrrr age of 30. So the settling, not really choosing the good guy, the plan is to find a girl that was never into that to begin with.
hoping2heal Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Don't wish to hurt others just because one girl did you wrong. That girl never chose you over her ex, ever. My ex recently came back into my life, in about 2 minutes I shut him down for business and made it clear I wanted him to be in no part of my life whatsoever. There is NO way I am choosing him over my current partner. She didn't do that, I can see why that hurts but at the same time you are the one who allowed yourself to be second best. We all make mistakes, and let people go to far with us, and treat us worse than we should. Learn from this, and learn from it positively. Turning into a creep isn't going to solve your dilema or protect you, you got so hurt because you allowed a girl who chose another man over you to stay in your life, so what should you learn? Not shut down your feelings, but assert yourself so that the next time someones tries to make you second best, don't stand for that kind of treatment.
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 and also..I didn't meet my most recent ex till she was 31.. trust me you'd think she's smoking at 36! Age doesn't matter one bit! If they leave, they leave.. I guess I should thank her since I'm now dating 20'somethings agian! Thanks, EX! Have fun at 40!!!
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Don't wish to hurt others just because one girl did you wrong. That girl never chose you over her ex, ever. My ex recently came back into my life, in about 2 minutes I shut him down for business and made it clear I wanted him to be in no part of my life whatsoever. There is NO way I am choosing him over my current partner. She didn't do that, I can see why that hurts but at the same time you are the one who allowed yourself to be second best. We all make mistakes, and let people go to far with us, and treat us worse than we should. Learn from this, and learn from it positively. Turning into a creep isn't going to solve your dilema or protect you, you got so hurt because you allowed a girl who chose another man over you to stay in your life, so what should you learn? Not shut down your feelings, but assert yourself so that the next time someones tries to make you second best, don't stand for that kind of treatment. You didn't read my post did you, did you read the entire thread??????????????????????????? This thread has nothing to do with hurting other people, why would you hurt someone else thats "innocent" just because someone else rubed you the wrong way. Besides im too good looking for that, that way a year ago, as you can see like the average loveshack poster I didn't post much about it, Im 19, halfway a millionaire already, sexy' no reason what so ever to be caught up on a EX. Learn from my words, Never give up until your 1st, but thanks for the input.
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 Keep your head up and do what makes you happy! What do you mean, the only way to live life is do what makes you happy I believe.
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 What do you mean, the only way to live life is do what makes you happy I believe. That's what I mean! Don't be down like ALOT of people on here get(myself included at first)..get out there and live!!
Author WiseOne1 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 That's what I mean! Don't be down like ALOT of people on here get(myself included at first)..get out there and live!! Well hopefully things get better for alot of people, it takes time, or experience one, then again Im not really sure why im not talking to my ex, I have nothing against her, I actually would love to be friends, but I find it strongly embarrasing to even talk to her, after I acted, you know the usuall begging to get back together or trying to persuade. Maybe 1 day I will call her.
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Maybe 1 day I will call her. Ehhh...what's the point? Let'em be, I say! I have plenty of friends and do not consider her one!
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