MissHamilton Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ive got myself into a silly situation with a guy ive recently just become friends with. Hes 17 year old … 18 tomorrow .. im 21 … and he has a girlfriend whom hes been with for 7 month. I partly blame myself for the hurt I feel at the moment. But I know its not 100% my own fault. Story goes like this: As soon as I first met him I was instantly attracted. Lookswise he is my perfect man! Personality wise he is also very much like me, so laid back and practically care free. We have a great laugh together We got on so well from that first night, and over the first few weeks we kinda fell for each other, we spent a lot of time together, texting, talking via msn and telephone and we both made each other feel special when we were around each other. I always used to link his arm and he used to stroke my palm before linking his fingers with mine and putting our hands in one of his pockets. It made me feel like a teenager with a crush again. We were out one night and decided to “go to the shop” .. just to get away from our group of friends for ten minutes. We headed off away from them and ended up locking lips .. it felt really nice and we didn’t want to stop but my phone rang and disturbed us. We headed back to our group of friends with a big smile on our faces. That night he went to his girlfriends house and whilst he was watching tv she looked through his phone and found text messages from me. Needless to say she went mad and they had a big argument. By the next day they had kissed and made up and I receive a text from him saying it shouldn’t have happened and to forget it. I was kinda hurt but I respected what he wanted and I didn’t wanna lose him as a friend so I got over it. We were still close as friends, still hung out together but my friends were starting to think things were going on with us, and with his friends being out with us too we had to be careful they didn’t say anything to his girlfriend so I stopped linking his arms and being touchy feely with him. We always talked about sex things together, and he used to say if he was single he would be with me and that he would love to have some sexual fun with me etc. I just laughed it off as I thought nothing would ever happen. Boy was I wrong! The past two weeks his girlfriend has been on holiday and he has spent every single night with me. Some nights we were out with friends, but the rest he has been with just me, at my house, going on drives out, cinema, bowling etc. we have been like a couple basically. There has been no kisses whatsoever, even though we were both dying to lock lips. But we engaged in oral sex a few times. After the first time it happened he text me yet again saying it shouldn’t have happened and to forget it, I said okay no problem. I wont lie, I felt totally used, humiliated and not to mention upset. Later on that same evening, , he come to my house and it happened AGAIN. I know I shouldn’t have let it happen as I knew I would end up hurt again. But the way he looked at me and smiled, I just forgot about the consequences. He continued to come see me the next two nights after that but he didn’t mention anything about what we done and I didn’t get any text messages saying it shouldn’t have happened, I just forgot all about it as obviously he had. The weekend just gone he come round again and I peformed oral, again. He said it was amazing and unreal and that his gf wasn’t that good at it. we talked for ages about sex and what we both liked and I said something about being better than his girl at everything and he just nodded and gave me his cheeky smile. He said later on that night, when he had gone home and we were talking via msn, that if he didnt have to go he woulda stayed all night and that we woulda ended up having sex, he wanted me so much and he loved being with me His girlfriend is back now and I haven’t heard from him for two days. Im not allowed to text him, incase hes with her. Its awful being apart from him when ive been so close these past two weeks. Im headf*cked .. cause I don’t get why he let things happen once, then said it shouldn’t have happened, yet he come round the same night and let it happen again. Then once more after that and telling me we woulda went all the way if he had been with me longer Does he actually like me? But doesnt wanna fully admit his feelings because hes already with someone he loves. Or do you think he was just wanting a bit of meaningless fun? I personally think he feels something for me, more than he should. He had two weeks to spend with his friends and do what he likes, but he didn’t, he spent id say atleast 11 out of the 15 days with just me, on our own. And the other 4 days with me aswell as our group of friends. Im just so torn at the moment because i really like him, i love the friendship we have. I wanna be closer to him, but I think now I need to leave him alone. What do I do Does she have the right to know? Do i tell her? Do i risk my friendships with not only him but other people in our group?
utterer of lies Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 There has been no kisses whatsoever, even though we were both dying to lock lips. But we engaged in oral sex a few times. Later on that same evening, , he come to my house and it happened AGAIN. The weekend just gone he come round again and I peformed oral, again. Yay, blowjobs whenever he feels like. No wonder he likes you. His girlfriend is back now and I haven’t heard from him for two days. Im not allowed to text him, incase hes with her. Its awful being apart from him when ive been so close these past two weeks. 'You are not allowed to text him'? WTF? Don't give him control over this. Does he actually like me? But doesnt wanna fully admit his feelings because hes already with someone he loves. Or do you think he was just wanting a bit of meaningless fun? I personally think he feels something for me, more than he should. He had two weeks to spend with his friends and do what he likes, but he didn’t, he spent id say atleast 11 out of the 15 days with just me, on our own. And the other 4 days with me aswell as our group of friends. You offer no-strings-attached fun, you allow him to completely control on when and how you meet, it's a very nice deal for him. Im just so torn at the moment because i really like him, i love the friendship we have. I wanna be closer to him, but I think now I need to leave him alone. What do I do Does she have the right to know? Do i tell her? Do i risk my friendships with not only him but other people in our group? Tell her, for fairness' sake. But don't expect that he will come and live with you happily ever after...
MistyK Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 There has been no kisses whatsoever, even though we were both dying to lock lips. But we engaged in oral sex a few times. Um, why the no kisses? Was this some sort of weird "Pretty Woman" boundary? If so, it pretty much sucks all the emotional sweetness out of it. This guy sounds like a user and a jerk. (And sexually selfish - he did nothing for you.) Basically I think he's totally taking advantage of you because he's getting NSA BJ's from you. It's about the emotional maturity I'd expect from an 18 year old. Don't kid yourself that having sex with him would have made him "yours", you'd just be feeling even worse when he went home to the girlfriend. Move on, this guy's a douchebag with a capital D.
2sure Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 ...cause I don’t get why he let things happen once, then said it shouldn’t have happened, yet he come round the same night and let it happen again. He let, he let...You did this to yourself. You let him do this to you. Does he actually like me? But doesnt wanna fully admit his feelings because hes already with someone he loves. Or do you think he was just wanting a bit of meaningless fun? Dont read into this things that are just not there. This is not intimacy and affection. If he had wanted to kiss you , he would have, he didnt want to. He just wanted oral sex and someone to boost his ego. Now his girlfriend is home, so you will see him less. But he is a cheater and likes the attention so he will be back for another BJ and will stay in touch because he likes having you available. PLEASE stop doing this to yourself.
Lucky_One Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 He's an 18 year old boy, and you give BJs with no commitment and no demands. No wonder he is hanging out with you. You have set yourself up to be disrespected and used. If you like this, then continue. If this upsets you, then quit.
SRTtoZ Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Do you live in NY? jk. I agree with everyone else. Ef him. Its not worth it....hes just using you, CLEARLY.
fooled once Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ive got myself into a silly situation with a guy ive recently just become friends with. Hes 17 year old … 18 tomorrow .. im 21 … and he has a girlfriend whom hes been with for 7 month. I partly blame myself for the hurt I feel at the moment. But I know its not 100% my own fault. Story goes like this: As soon as I first met him I was instantly attracted. Lookswise he is my perfect man! Personality wise he is also very much like me, so laid back and practically care free. We have a great laugh together We got on so well from that first night, and over the first few weeks we kinda fell for each other, we spent a lot of time together, texting, talking via msn and telephone and we both made each other feel special when we were around each other. I always used to link his arm and he used to stroke my palm before linking his fingers with mine and putting our hands in one of his pockets. It made me feel like a teenager with a crush again. We were out one night and decided to “go to the shop” .. just to get away from our group of friends for ten minutes. We headed off away from them and ended up locking lips .. it felt really nice and we didn’t want to stop but my phone rang and disturbed us. We headed back to our group of friends with a big smile on our faces. That night he went to his girlfriends house and whilst he was watching tv she looked through his phone and found text messages from me. Needless to say she went mad and they had a big argument. By the next day they had kissed and made up and I receive a text from him saying it shouldn’t have happened and to forget it. I was kinda hurt but I respected what he wanted and I didn’t wanna lose him as a friend so I got over it. We were still close as friends, still hung out together but my friends were starting to think things were going on with us, and with his friends being out with us too we had to be careful they didn’t say anything to his girlfriend so I stopped linking his arms and being touchy feely with him. We always talked about sex things together, and he used to say if he was single he would be with me and that he would love to have some sexual fun with me etc. I just laughed it off as I thought nothing would ever happen. Boy was I wrong! The past two weeks his girlfriend has been on holiday and he has spent every single night with me. Some nights we were out with friends, but the rest he has been with just me, at my house, going on drives out, cinema, bowling etc. we have been like a couple basically. There has been no kisses whatsoever, even though we were both dying to lock lips. But we engaged in oral sex a few times. After the first time it happened he text me yet again saying it shouldn’t have happened and to forget it, I said okay no problem. I wont lie, I felt totally used, humiliated and not to mention upset. Later on that same evening, , he come to my house and it happened AGAIN. I know I shouldn’t have let it happen as I knew I would end up hurt again. But the way he looked at me and smiled, I just forgot about the consequences. He continued to come see me the next two nights after that but he didn’t mention anything about what we done and I didn’t get any text messages saying it shouldn’t have happened, I just forgot all about it as obviously he had. The weekend just gone he come round again and I peformed oral, again. He said it was amazing and unreal and that his gf wasn’t that good at it. we talked for ages about sex and what we both liked and I said something about being better than his girl at everything and he just nodded and gave me his cheeky smile. He said later on that night, when he had gone home and we were talking via msn, that if he didnt have to go he woulda stayed all night and that we woulda ended up having sex, he wanted me so much and he loved being with me His girlfriend is back now and I haven’t heard from him for two days. Im not allowed to text him, incase hes with her. Its awful being apart from him when ive been so close these past two weeks. Im headf*cked .. cause I don’t get why he let things happen once, then said it shouldn’t have happened, yet he come round the same night and let it happen again. Then once more after that and telling me we woulda went all the way if he had been with me longer Does he actually like me? But doesnt wanna fully admit his feelings because hes already with someone he loves. Or do you think he was just wanting a bit of meaningless fun? I personally think he feels something for me, more than he should. He had two weeks to spend with his friends and do what he likes, but he didn’t, he spent id say atleast 11 out of the 15 days with just me, on our own. And the other 4 days with me aswell as our group of friends. Im just so torn at the moment because i really like him, i love the friendship we have. I wanna be closer to him, but I think now I need to leave him alone. What do I do Does she have the right to know? Do i tell her? Do i risk my friendships with not only him but other people in our group? Like everyone else - he USED you. He got sexual gratification from you. Of course he kept coming around - you fawned all over him and gave him blow jobs. EVERY teenage BOY likes this. And he is a BOY, not a man. What in the world are you doing? Do you not value yourself? He has a girlfriend. He has made it clear to you he has a girlfriend. He knows you like him - like him. Ugh..... Stop demeaning yourself and forget about him. He isn't mature, he is a user, a liar, a cheater and I can't for the life of me figure out what you would see in that behavior. And trust me -- if he allows you to give him head while he is dating someone else - even if he broke up with her and was with you, he would do the same thing TO you (cheat on you). He isn't mature enough. He is a teenager. He has a lot of growing up to do. You two aren't going to get together and get married. Just leave him alone and move on. Or you can sit and wait for him to text you and the next time his girlfriend is not around, you can give him head again and he will use you again. Sure - tell his girlfriend. But be prepared for the fall out. Which will be her calling you a sl*t, wh*re and every other name in the book. It won't make him come running to you.
Mino Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 damn they learn young... a cheater is born:sick: Whats wrong with this, no kissing, but a bj is ok? Geezzzz
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