adzent Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ok so ive been with my girlfriend for 5 months, almost 6 now, , and we are the loves of eachtohers lives. We both now this, we have a great time, anytime. The past months have been amazing, but a week ago her best friend sent her a rather mean text, saying that she has changed and she doesnt now her anymore, and that she never sees her. I could tell it hit her, and i talked to her about it. She said she misses her firneds, but would prefer to spend time with me (as vice versa). Now yesterday, shereceived mail of her friend, saying that she doesnt now her, shes never there for her, all their past times and how they had so much fun. Now my girlf feels guilty, and really wants to see her. She has cried over it, and i have comforted her, at least ive tried, and she wants to see her best friend more. I felt that this was my fault and my responsibility, so i uped myself and told her, "its me, i feel guilty. I love you so much and i would do anything to make you happy, even if that means giving you up". I obviously overreacted, but i take it upon myself that she doesnt see her friend, as she wont say no to me when i as her to go out. I feel like sh*t, after i told her she was crying her eyes out, i didnt end it, honeslty i dont think i ever coul dbecause it would kill me inside to loose her. I just dont now what to do. I get the feeling of jelousy, you now, as if she is being taken form me, and i now i shouldnt so i havent told her this, but is this not natural ? I feel bad, im blaming myself, i want her to spend time with her firends but i dont... it's hard. If anyone has experiences like htis, or advise, please help me out. I love her with all my heart and soul, and we need to get past this. We are trying to sort it, like she should see he rfirned at least once a week, but i could use personal advise for personal comfort.
LakesideDream Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ok so ive been with my girlfriend for 5 months, almost 6 now, , and we are the loves of eachtohers lives. We both now this, we have a great time, anytime. The past months have been amazing, but a week ago her best friend sent her a rather mean text, saying that she has changed and she doesnt now her anymore, and that she never sees her. I could tell it hit her, and i talked to her about it. She said she misses her firneds, but would prefer to spend time with me (as vice versa). Now yesterday, shereceived mail of her friend, saying that she doesnt now her, shes never there for her, all their past times and how they had so much fun. Now my girlf feels guilty, and really wants to see her. She has cried over it, and i have comforted her, at least ive tried, and she wants to see her best friend more. I felt that this was my fault and my responsibility, so i uped myself and told her, "its me, i feel guilty. I love you so much and i would do anything to make you happy, even if that means giving you up". I obviously overreacted, but i take it upon myself that she doesnt see her friend, as she wont say no to me when i as her to go out. I feel like sh*t, after i told her she was crying her eyes out, i didnt end it, honeslty i dont think i ever coul dbecause it would kill me inside to loose her. I just dont now what to do. I get the feeling of jelousy, you now, as if she is being taken form me, and i now i shouldnt so i havent told her this, but is this not natural ? I feel bad, im blaming myself, i want her to spend time with her firends but i dont... it's hard. If anyone has experiences like htis, or advise, please help me out. I love her with all my heart and soul, and we need to get past this. We are trying to sort it, like she should see he rfirned at least once a week, but i could use personal advise for personal comfort. All a part of growing up. Girl BFFL works until a woman falls in love and starts thinking long term relationship. It's less pronounced for men as men expect their friends to go to relationships. Men are also less jealous of relationships their friends have. They don't whine "you aren't there for me" with such regularity. Blow it off. IF your GF is mature enough for a relationship, she'll stay. K ?
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 WTF? is her her girlfriend GAY or clingy? she can still be a friend but doesnt need to be under her all the damn time. DAMN let her breathe! and men can let their friends have SO's and not freak out about it. You have a girlfriend , your not my homie anymore? LOL. no. This Other girl needs to grow up, how old is everyone?
Author adzent Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 In my opinion old enough to respect my partner and her decisions. Should she really be pressuring her and making her feel bad as she is her best friend? maybe its for the better, i had a feeling it was coming, but today she was with me, and her friend came over her house unexpectedly, so she left me on my own in her room for like an half hour talking to her, so that pissed me off, you now, how ****ing ignorant. Your with me, not her, i now she walked down buyt she shouldve given some advanced warning. Then my girlf pops in the bedroom door (where she left me, so i just stuck on top gear and sat their happily..) and asks me if she can go out later! I was pissed off by this, but what the hell am i going to say? No you cant? no, so i just said yea of course it is. Whatever. So her freind goes and by this time im pissed off pretty badly, so i just sat there quietly for an hour watching the rest of top gear (1 hour long) and then watched another one. She turned to me and kept saying your in a mood wth me, why? and i was like, no im not..i was obviously, she new this, and she said why arent you talking to me? so i decided to put my foot down, i said "listen i was watching this when you were out there talking, dont expect ot just come back in here after being out there for so long and for me to give you all my attention. i started doing something, you took too long, so now your going to have to wait.", believe me i could have been a heck of a lot harsher than that. we went on to make up, and she went out with her friend. I texted her a couple times, and she ended upo saying that her friends are leaving her at 7. So i didnt really want to, but id seem a twat if i didnt, so i asked her to just come over my house. She did so, but i got the feeling of being used, and i was pissed off again. It feels like im second best, and im just pissed off that she thinks she can just leave me in the middle of the day and think ill be fine.
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