should i wait for him to get his things or will i be breaking the nc rule?

[ms.stressed]

I texted my ex about getting his things. He has some of his stuff over here like tvs and bed sets and clothes and electrical stuff. I broke the no contact rule in doing that I know...Here's the thing I feel he should make arrangements to come get his stuff! I don't want to just give the tvs away nor do I want to just keep the box springs and other stuff. How do I handle this situation?

[Ronni_W]

Personally, I don't consider it breaking n/c if the communication is strictly dealing with the "practicalities and legalities" of the break-up.

 

In your shoes, I'd contact him again, using a different method perhaps, and let him know that his stuff will be donated to whatever charity by such-and-such a date unless he gets in touch to make arrangement to collect it.

 

And then just do it. Donate it all if he can't be bothered to come and get it. If he sets a date and doesn't show, same thing.

Break-ups are tough enough...you don't need the aggro of having his stuff around and him not caring about it.

 

Hugs.

[sugarmomma]

Maybe he doesn't think you're serious if you guys have a pattern of breaking up.

 

Treat the situation as if he doesn't want it. Keep what you want and ship him the rest. Your job is to not contact him at ALL.

 

Its really simple.

[ms.stressed]

Thanks for the advice. I really don't have his address so I don't know where to take it to. I remember him saying that he'll come get it in September. I just do not feel obligated to store his things now that we aren't together. Should I wait until September?

[ms.stressed]

Thanks. If he doesn't get it in September then I'll get rid of everything.

 

Hugs!