LovieDove24 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I just started a new job a few months ago. There are two guys I work with who are wanting to take me out on dates, etc. I'm not so worried about the dating a colleague thing since I will be leaving here in two months when school starts, but rather the fact that it's bad taste to date people who know each other. I've seen these two having friendly chit-chat at work and they seem to get along well. Since I'm still slightly new I do not know the extent of their friendship. What do you all think? Bad idea?
kizik Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Ooh, drama! I think the best solution would be to date neither, but I only say that in regards to their feelings. As for you, I say date both. Like you said, you're leaving anyway, and maybe you'll make a lasting connection.
Author LovieDove24 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 Haha. Its really not about the drama I promise. I'm actually genuinely interested in both of them but for different reasons. And I'm a single mama who doesn't get out much so work seems like the only place I meet men. I will say I've already had two really nice dates with one of them...the other we've only talked on the phone. But ya know, with only two dates under our belt, I don't feel like there's an "exclusive" loyalty towards him yet, ya know? I dunno...maybe Im coming off sounding like a b.tch here.
Lindarose84 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I'm sure you've heard this a million times, but generally it's a baaaad idea to crap where you eat. If the relationship goes sour, you have to deal with the discomfort of seeing the person everyday at work. Worse is you've got two guys instead of one. Imagine things go sour with both and it gets around in the office (which it eventually will because guys are bigger gossips than women)- now you've developed a "reputation" at work AND you have to deal with seeing both guys AND they'll probably swap stories about you. I made the mistake of dating where I worked and when it ended, I felt incredibly weird around him at work. So much so that I would take longer routes around the office to avoid him or just avoid his area of the office altogether. Worst off, his office was near the office kitchen so I cut my much needed coffee, tea, food, water runs in half in order to avoid him. All in all, I would just say no to office dating.
Author LovieDove24 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 I would normally agree with you too Lindarose but I'm leaving in two months.
Thaddeus Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 I would normally agree with you too Lindarose but I'm leaving in two months. You're rationalizing. And rationalizing is more important to the human condition than sex. Yes, really. Ever gone 7 days without a rationalization? Nadda chance. But to the point: If you're leaving in two months, then date these guys after you leave. Two months is nothing.
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