Together for 1 year moving in 1, am i being treated fairly?..

[blaze5]

ok so i met a girl about a year ago.. i started a job at toys r us and she worked for babies r us.. i was planning to move out of my house and she had mentioned something about needing a roommate and started talking to me about it. I wanted to get to know her a little bit so i wasnt moving in with a complete stranger. She told me she had a boyfriend that was in jail and still has 3 years left. Well....something happened between us and we sort of got together.. she had always talked about how he treated her like crap and she used to be upset alot and i made her happy. She kept saying that she was going to break up with him the next time she talked to him on the phone, she keeps putting it off.. i think even still now. I always try to talk to her about it and do something or else im leaving. Weve tried not seing eachother again but it gets hard and we both agree to. She really wants to go to a gradschool out of state and thinks that she mite make me give everything up here (state where i live, which i dont have anything at all.) she said she wants me to go so she knows someone and i want to go because i cant do long distant relationships... lets face it they never work. We dont fight at all and we get along really good. In a way im scared to go because ive gone out of state before to see a girlfriend and when i got there she didnt like me anymore. That relationship wasnt that strong though so that was stupid on my part. So.. i guess what i need help with is... am i being treated fairly?.. with her probably still with her bf being led on like i am one. Her sisters and friends just know that we are friends. nobody knows except my side of the family. Sometimes i think maybe i should just break up with her but its harder then that.. i just got over depression a few months before i met her and shes one of those that i would hate to give up. I want to hear that everything will be okay and will work out in the end. Any oppinions on what i should do?.. should i just wait and move with her? Should i leave her which i dont really know if i could? Is she treating me fairly? Thanks for reading and look forward to reading your replies.

[norajane]

I want to hear that everything will be okay and will work out in the end.

 

I'm sorry, but I can't tell you that.

 

There are huge red flags here all over the place.

 

She is cheating on her bf who is in jail. She won't break up with him, she won't tell him the truth. You know what that makes her? A liar and a cheater. Which means she will lie and cheat on you, too, if she feels it is necessary to get what she wants.

 

She won't event tell her family and friends she's seeing you - so she's lying to the people closest to her in her life. Which, again, makes her a liar, which means she can and will lie to you, too.

 

No, do not move out of state where you know nobody, have no job, and have no reason to be there except for her. Why would you do that? So you can pay her bills while she is in school and keep her from getting lonely? Why can't she go to school where you are right now?

 

You should break up with her because she sounds like a user - she uses people. But if you can't bring yourself to do that, wait until she moves and break up at that point.

 

Under no circumstances should you move in with her. Do you really want to become even more enmeshed in her messy life? What is her bf in jail for? Do you really want him coming after you?