spacecadet1968 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hi, I'm going to explain this the best I can. I'm pretty confused about this so please bear with me. About a year ago, after an evening of drinking, baseball, and skinny dipping, my friend and I found our wives drunkenly having sex. At the time, it was a turn-on, so we joined them on Bill (not his real name) pairing with my wife and me with his wife Kathy (not her real name), giving a receiving oral sex, no intercourse until the end, when we each ended up making love to our wives once again. The next morning, I woke up thinking, "oh god, what the hell did we do last night -- what the hell did I do?" I walked out of our bedroom to find my wife blankly staring at the TV and asked her if last night was the kind of lifestyle she wanted, She said no, to my relief, told me she loved me more than anything in the world. She asked me the same, and I told her the same. I wanted and still want her and only her, and don't want to share. I'm not into swinging, and neither is she. That was a year ago. A couple of weeks ago, while on my boat with Bill and Kathy, my wife and Kathy were drunk, and started making out. Bill and I were busy getting the boat back home, as the tide had gone out and it was a dark night. The only exception is that's where it stopped. Kathy was too drunk and Bill ended up scooping her into the car and going home. Now here's where I'm really confused. On one side, I have to admit this was a turn on. On the other hand, it makes me insecure and scared that maybe my wife really does want this, and I do too. But I know deep in my heart, whether or not I find it arousing, I don't want this. I don't want my wife making out with her best friend and I don't want another night of wife swapping. But I don't know how to tell my wife. Please help. I'm quietly freaking out.
norajane Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 But I know deep in my heart, whether or not I find it arousing, I don't want this. I don't want my wife making out with her best friend and I don't want another night of wife swapping. But I don't know how to tell my wife. Do it the same way you did it last time - ask her if that is the lifestyle she wants. If the answer is no, then get your butts into marriage counseling right now. And suggest that she stop drinking so much when you two are out with Kathy. If she says yes, then get into marriage counseling yesterday. Because if she wants to be with women, that's not just going to go away. A counselor can at least help you communicate about this issue.
sugarmomma Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Sounds like your wife really likes her BF and is bisexual bordering on lesbianism. I would get my wife as far away from this couple as possible if you want to save your M. If you just moan about it she'll prbably start to see her behind your back. She is obviously attracted to this woman. Please take action soon.
Island Girl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Do it the same way you did it last time - ask her if that is the lifestyle she wants. If the answer is no, then get your butts into marriage counseling right now. And suggest that she stop drinking so much when you two are out with Kathy. If she says yes, then get into marriage counseling yesterday. Because if she wants to be with women, that's not just going to go away. A counselor can at least help you communicate about this issue. I second this. And I also agree that she is probably going to have to give up or at least reduce contact with the friend - and certainly NO DRINKING around them. So don't get into situations where it will be an issue. And it sounds like Bill may feel the same way you do.
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