bluesky123 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hello All, It has been 45 days since we split, as I said before its a very emotionaly classy split. Also it has been 30 days of NC, I'm the dumpee hence I shouldn't call her but I have the urge to call her. It seems to be getting worse rather than better, I thought NC helps you heal. Is it safe to say she has moved on and is not coming back ?
adamt Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I'm in a similar situation after 7 weeks. Have moments where i feel like dropping her a text or email. asking how she is..etc Sometimes i think that it can be sorted out with communication but then i manage to stop myself from contacting her because if she really loved me she wouldnt have disappeared for the last 7 weeks. also i dont want to risk going back to day 1 and messing up all the good work i have done to get where i am. For a month i couldnt concentrate at work and forget lots of things. i'm now busy getting into the gym. sometimes it goes through my head wondering what she is thinking. is she missing me, does she think about me, does she have regrets, does she wish she had done things differently in the relationship,..etc I'm determined to stay strong and keep my self respect.
Author bluesky123 Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 adamt, I think all the same things. Like you said if you SO really loved you they will call. I guess the answer is right there, I think she met somebody. The gym works great for stress relief. I wonder if she thinks about me too !
MCON Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I was forced into this NC. At the same time I am keenly aware of her need to heal. I want so much just to hear her voice... I fight it every minute. When you get through whatever led you to this point, you can only hope that whatever is on the other side will be pure and stronger from it.
adamt Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Took her off facebook 2 weeks ago and not a word back. maybe she is relieved we arent friends on facebook anymore. Who knows. You just wonder how someone can chuck away a 3 year relationship just like that. You wonder if they really were into you when it got the crunch of making commitments. Had they been having doubts for a while and been acting in the relationship.
Author bluesky123 Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 Took her off facebook 2 weeks ago and not a word back. maybe she is relieved we arent friends on facebook anymore. Who knows. You just wonder how someone can chuck away a 3 year relationship just like that. You wonder if they really were into you when it got the crunch of making commitments. Had they been having doubts for a while and been acting in the relationship. The only contact we had was an email, she stated as she is finnish school she needs to find out what she needs out of life , husband and career. Same story for the both of us, sometimes I feel she is scared to contact me due to the fact that in my previous relationship when we parted I took it really hard and threw everything away, cut all ties and wanted nothing to do withthat person anymore. I guess it's only air, she could be at home crying, moving on with her life or on a date. I'l never know, what kills me is that her good friend only found out of the break threw the grape vine. When her friend called her, I'll my ex said she needed to do, no reasons given and does not know if it's permanent. I got to keep strong with NC .
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