luvstarved Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 A fundamental difference between my H and me struck me today in a way it really had not before. It occurred to me that I would rather know the truth even if it is not pleasant and he would rather say/hear what is pleasant even if it is not the truth... I don't mean to the wild extreme...I am not for "brutal" honesty etc but there are certain things he can't or won't talk about that leave me feeling very frustrated...and he doesn't seem to listen to what I say at all as long as it is reasonably upbeat. If I or anyone else tries to tell him an unpleasant truth (or insanely common perception if you prefer) about himself he flatly rejects it...and goes off on how the source of this perception is really really disturbed. It struck me when he wanted to get these concert tix. I said I would go but was not personally interested in that artist. And that I only wanted to go if it was something he felt strongly about because, like most people, we don't have hundreds of extra dollars every month to toss on a single event.. It was weird, because he kept on and kept on paraphrasing the question and going through all sorts of hoops to try to get me to say that I really wanted to see this artist. And I finally said, all you want is for me to say that I really want to see this guy and then you'll be happy. So I said it, facetiously, and off he went getting the tickets. I guess the point was when things get even tighter and he thinks I am going to bitch about the tix, he wants to be able to say that I said I wanted to go...even knowing it isn't the real truth... Anyway it sort of clarified a bunch of other things for me...so I guess that is progress of some sort... Sigh...
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