So, broke the No Contact, but I feel 10 times better: this is why

[New_life]

So, despite being in a hole for 3 months I have finally received the closure I need to start NC for real now.

 

I wasnt convinced at first of NC, always having doubts. I feel everyone shouldnt just go in to NC, first get the closure and then NC.

 

So I texted her: I can finally say I want your happiness, so here is to a good future for both of us, take care best wishes.

 

She thinks Im going out with my ex since Thursday so it helped . She called me and said I miss you, great to here that voice, it hurts I dont want to know the details of your new relationship. And told me to hear a song, which touched my heart just to know at least a shred of her feels a little like I feel.

 

That is it, I can now fully start NC, I have that closure knowing she is in a very low percentage at least like me.... It helps as well to come here every day. For a new beginning and life to all of us!!

[mammax3]

Awesome. Good for you.

 

It sounds like the NC helped to get to the point where you could call and gain acceptance and closure instead of feeling the negative and hurting emotions.

 

[Giha]

I tried NC before I got my 'closure' and failed miserably. I guess I still had hope for us

But then she started dating my friend, so that's when I felt like this is as far as I can take in started NC. Almost a month now

[moo]

That's really good for you. But for me, there is no closure. My ex refuses to answer my questions and refuses to say why he told me so many lies. I had no choice but to move on. Every time I broke NC to get answers, I ended up in tears. Some of us can't get closure because we dated a-holes. We just have to live with what we got and try to move on.

[LostLamb]

I'd never tell my ex I hope that he is happy but it's good that you feel good about breakup now , feeling free must be a good feeling.

[Beeotch]

That's really good for you. But for me, there is no closure. My ex refuses to answer my questions and refuses to say why he told me so many lies. I had no choice but to move on. Every time I broke NC to get answers, I ended up in tears. Some of us can't get closure because we dated a-holes. We just have to live with what we got and try to move on.

 

True. Everyone can't get closure from their ex...even if they arent a-holes. Some things probably will just not make sense or we just don't want to hear. So it really depends...

[Pfiend101]

Good for you. Its been 3 weeks since I wrote a Goodbye letter to my ex who dumped me. Most heart felt and positive letter to her and haven't heard anything back. Blows my mind she got over me so quickly. All I got from her was a couple "text messages". No closure. Almost sent a text yesterday but deleted it.

[Thomas X Forever]

It doesn't matter WHAT you said. You usually ALWAYS feel relief after breaking NC. The pain is going to come soon. I tell you this so you aren't caught off guard.

[New_life]

thanks, I know I will still feel the pain. Especially knowing she is going out with someone else. HOwever I did so many things that I regret to get her back, I dont want her back anymore. So to here that at least she thinks a little about me helps me out in not feeling like trash..

 

That is what I needed not to feel like trash, have some confidence. And yesterday the song she dedicated to me sadi that she missed me even being with someone else. I didnt even think as it a sign of going back, nor her wanting me, etc..

 

So yes, I know NC is cruel and I know that Im in soo much pain, but this helps a little bit.

[aloneanddepressed]

I accidentally posted in the wrong area..if a huge message comes up sorry!