melissa123 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 This is guna sound like a stupid post but I need someone to talk to as im realy stupidly upset at the mo. I broke up with my ex about 8ish months ago. We havent not spoked since. He ran off with a good friend of mine and posted his new found happiness over facebook which hurt so bad. Anyway about a year ago when we were together he lent a hat to a friend of mine. A few months ago he randomly got in contact after seeing me demanding he gets his hat back. I ignored the txt as it really didnt have anything to do with me and after ignoring me for months I thought why should I jump and send his hat back. He also owes me a small amount of money which would easiy cover the cost of the hat. Anyway after ignoring his request for his hat he started contacting me through an ex friend of mine demanding for it back. I stuck to Nc mostly. Today he started his harrasing again through this 'friend' demanding that he gets it back. I told him straight up that the hat wasn't lent to me nor do I have it and to leave me alone' That in turn made him really abusive and I am starting to get all sorts of txts saying how he hates me and everyone hates me and he cant be bothered dealing with me and my crap etc. He saying things like hes glad he dumped me and now hes going as far as threatening to sue me. Then he started txtn all my friends and harrasing them to get the hat for him. This is all over a hat which he didnt even lend to me! The hat btw got thrown out ages ago as we just presumed after all that time that something like this wouldnt happen. So here I am all upset that he is threatenin me so much, he wont stop and I cant stop crying over it. What do I do? Help me please Im real stupidly upset over it. Anyway what do I do? Im really upset
New_life Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 hes a jerk... dont answer anything and tell his friend to bugger off. Tell them both to get a life, change your number. What a jass....
Giha Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Wow, he's a real jerk You don't have to put up with that, tell him you don't have the hat and then ignore him. If this continues and goes over the line I suggest you report, that's some creepy stuff
Beeotch Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 This is guna sound like a stupid post but I need someone to talk to as im realy stupidly upset at the mo. I broke up with my ex about 8ish months ago. We havent not spoked since. He ran off with a good friend of mine and posted his new found happiness over facebook which hurt so bad. Anyway about a year ago when we were together he lent a hat to a friend of mine. A few months ago he randomly got in contact after seeing me demanding he gets his hat back. I ignored the txt as it really didnt have anything to do with me and after ignoring me for months I thought why should I jump and send his hat back. He also owes me a small amount of money which would easiy cover the cost of the hat. Anyway after ignoring his request for his hat he started contacting me through an ex friend of mine demanding for it back. I stuck to Nc mostly. Today he started his harrasing again through this 'friend' demanding that he gets it back. I told him straight up that the hat wasn't lent to me nor do I have it and to leave me alone' That in turn made him really abusive and I am starting to get all sorts of txts saying how he hates me and everyone hates me and he cant be bothered dealing with me and my crap etc. He saying things like hes glad he dumped me and now hes going as far as threatening to sue me. Then he started txtn all my friends and harrasing them to get the hat for him. This is all over a hat which he didnt even lend to me! The hat btw got thrown out ages ago as we just presumed after all that time that something like this wouldnt happen. So here I am all upset that he is threatenin me so much, he wont stop and I cant stop crying over it. What do I do? Help me please Im real stupidly upset over it. Anyway what do I do? Im really upset Well first off...he must be doing this for some other reason as NO ONE would be that upset over a long lost hat. Craziness! But if there is anyway to block his messages you should...or change your number. His verbally abusive behavior is uncalled for. Don't believe his lies...he is just trying to get to you and it is working. When the messages come in..delete them! Don't even read them. This behavior is unacceptable...if he continues I would call the authorities and ask them what to do about this STALKER!
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Send him the $20 for a new one. What a waste of energy this guy is.
Beeotch Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Send him the $20 for a new one. What a waste of energy this guy is. Was going to tell her that....but she says he owes her money that can cover the cost of this hat. But I guess to be the bigger person and to show him what an a-hole he is...I would send him some money (if I could spare it) and that should shut him up (unless ofcourse it is not about the hat...which I have a feeling it isn't)..and if he continues pestering you...he is a stalker and you should nip it in the bud. Poor thing is making an a$$ of himself..as he is stalking your friends asking them to aks you about this stupid hat...they all must think he is an idiot. *smh* This is laughable hun...you should be laughing at this moron and not crying.
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Was going to tell her that....but she says he owes her money that can cover the cost of this hat. But I guess to be the bigger person and to show him what an a-hole he is...I would send him some money (if I could spare it) and that should shut him up (unless ofcourse it is not about the hat...which I have a feeling it isn't)..and if he continues pestering you...he is a stalker and you should nip it in the bud. It is a very small price to pay for him to leave her alone. He is just trying to get a reaction out of her. People like this are irritating.
Author melissa123 Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 Thanks guys so much for your replies! I got so stupidly upset over it!!! A few minutes ago I showed my mum all the text messages and she decided to txt my ex herself and just said that I have nothing to do with it and to stop sending me abusive txt messages etc. Straight away me ex sent a big apology txt to my phone and said he would no longer bother me lol!!! It might have been bit stupid getting my mum invloved but it certainly worked for now! I would have sent him money but he owes me petrol money which would easily cover it. I just got so upset and defensive over the way he demanded it back after all this time then demanded compensation pay!! It easily would have cost no more that $10-$20!! He could even have change out of the money he owed me! And on top of this I didnt even borrow the dam hat! It was a friend of mine!!!!! Thanks again so much for your replies! Im super sensitive and txts like that really upset me. Just for the record do you keep your exs stuff? I mean we hadn't spoken in 7 months by the time he asked for it back and the hat had been borrowd for almost a year. Would you guys have thrown it out also?
Beeotch Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Thanks guys so much for your replies! I got so stupidly upset over it!!! A few minutes ago I showed my mum all the text messages and she decided to txt my ex herself and just said that I have nothing to do with it and to stop sending me abusive txt messages etc. Straight away me ex sent a big apology txt to my phone and said he would no longer bother me lol!!! It might have been bit stupid getting my mum invloved but it certainly worked for now! I would have sent him money but he owes me petrol money which would easily cover it. I just got so upset and defensive over the way he demanded it back after all this time then demanded compensation pay!! It easily would have cost no more that $10-$20!! He could even have change out of the money he owed me! And on top of this I didnt even borrow the dam hat! It was a friend of mine!!!!! Thanks again so much for your replies! Im super sensitive and txts like that really upset me. Just for the record do you keep your exs stuff? I mean we hadn't spoken in 7 months by the time he asked for it back and the hat had been borrowd for almost a year. Would you guys have thrown it out also? I would have given him back his things...esp if he asked. I didnt really have anything belonging to my ex that wasn't a gift to me...so I didn't have to return anything, plus we didn't break up under bad circumstances so it would have been easy to give back stuff and so on if I had them.
moo Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 my ex gave me two e-cards in one year. that's it. no regular cards, no presents nothing. He always had an excuse. I had nothing to give back to him.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Melissa, I wanted to say hello, and that if you need anyone, I'm here. You can get my email/myspace by clicking on my name, then going to "Contact". It lists my website, and my website lists all that info. I'd love to stay in touch and help you, we go way back.
Author melissa123 Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 Thanks again In hindsight I guess I should have sent the hat back when we first broke up. I didnt think that after 6 months of NC he would suddenly be demanding that I get it back to him! And now that I dont have it anymore he is demanding compansation pay! I think if anything I should be getting compansation from him for emotional damage when he lied and ran off with my ex friend! Did I do the right thing? Would you have thrown an exs stuff out after 6 months nc when they have moved on with your old good friend? Thanks Tom I sure will keep in touch with you How are you anyway? Any news from that letter you sent?
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