mammax3 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Someone posted before that even if the other party contacts you, NC is still broken. I understand that. For some reason I thought it was only detrimental if I contacted the other party first - akin to one of us calling Olly Olly Oxen Free and so the other is now the 'winner'. I also understand that this is a poor mentality and although I just said it, it's not something I actually believe, just describing what feels like it... if one's beliefs and descriptions of sense can be be in opposition. Anyway. He contacted me today. Very surprised since it's not inline with how I've understood his personality. We had a very pleasant 5 minute innocuous conversation (I meant to end it first, given some of the advice given, but it didn't really 'fit' with the flow, if that makes sense) and we didn't get into anything relationship-ish. Given part of the reason I believe he broke up with me (although, come to think of it, I suggested a 'break' and then he suggested the break up... argh! Sort of mutual, I suppose... anyway) was due to my increased neediness, I will not contact him at all for the rest of the week. We had a nice convo and I don't want to wreck that. Or maybe I should chat him... Can I have some opinions on this please? Was his contacting me today a way to reach out given how his 'usual' behaviour led me to believe he wouldn't? Would me contacting him be too needy, or just the next step in getting closer again (to friends level, or more, who knows...)? Irish Car Bomb's take on writergal's match.com dude sounds quite similar to the thought process of my guy - what do you think he could be thinking?
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