hopesndreams Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 There are so many men out there, you just have to weed em out.
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 There are so many men out there, you just have to weed em out. Samething can be said about women.
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Your list is more of an outer appearance that can be "fixed" much more easily than say someone who has an anger issue or an attendancy to be a player or addcition to alcohol. I disagree -- it's unlikely that anyone is going to 'fix' the way they are set in their ways... so when you find something highly offensive or unacceptable in someone, you shouldn't have it in mind that is something they can fix for you... be prepared to take the person as they are, or not. Don't try fix 'em.
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Samething can be said about women. So, did you ever find another woman, Black? After your ex cheated on you?
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Your list is more of an outer appearance that can be "fixed" much more easily than say someone who has an anger issue or an attendancy to be a player or addcition to alcohol. Add to that list some weirdo man who NEVER reveals ANYTHING about himself -- cannot share who they are, or what their past has been, or what they've learned in their long lifetime... but who takes delight in poking people who are normal and can openly and honestly share who they are and what they've done, mistakes and all, with others.... Black, it's not enough to pride oneself just on 'never being a Cheater' or not having anger issues, or being addicted to alcohol... there are other things just as faulty indicating character flaws, like being a Social Misfit.
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 So, did you ever find another woman, Black? After your ex cheated on you? I have never been cheated on.
hopesndreams Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Add to that list some weirdo man who NEVER reveals ANYTHING about himself -- cannot share who they are, or what their past has been, or what they've learned in their long lifetime... but who takes delight in poking people who are normal and can openly and honestly share who they are and what they've done, mistakes and all, with others.... Black, it's not enough to pride oneself just on 'never being a Cheater' or not having anger issues, or being addicted to alcohol... there are other things just as faulty indicating character flaws, like being a Social Misfit. I just love your style of writing Athena, can read you all day long. Black, maybe it's time for your own thread eh? Let us get to know you.
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I just love your style of writing Athena, can read you all day long. LOL! (I've had pple tell me they love my accent, and can listen to me all day long, lol.... first time I'm hearing the 'can read you all day long'! lol... )
hopesndreams Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 LOL. Hey, added you as a contact, check out the "real" hopes and her H. *still waits for black's thread*
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I have never been cheated on. I see. Then why do you have a special interest in infidelity, and why are you always so hung up on calling women sluts and wh0res and use terms like 'spread your legs for him' etc? Did your mother cheat on your father?
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 LOL. Hey, added you as a contact, check out the "real" hopes and her H. *still waits for black's thread* K, will do... btw I highly doubt Black will Give Anything! His track record as his various and multiple persona on these boards, is to NEVER share anything personal, but only to make personal attacks on posters who are vulnerable and honest.
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 K, will do... btw I highly doubt Black will Give Anything! His track record as his various and multiple persona on these boards, is to NEVER share anything personal, but only to make personal attacks on posters who are vulnerable and honest. Have I ever attacked you in any way?
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I see. Then why do you have a special interest in infidelity, and why are you always so hung up on calling women sluts and wh0res and use terms like 'spread your legs for him' etc? Did your mother cheat on your father? You can assume all you want about me, my parents, my grand parents, my sibling, my friends, etc., it's not relevant to my view and understanding of basic and simple morality.
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Have I ever attacked you in any way? no, but you have attacked others on the boards when there is no need to. When I was freshly a BS I could NOT look at the OW/OM boards because I was in so much agony when I did take a peek the once or twice, and I stayed away from that board for years, until I grew more accepting of people's situations. When you give nothing of yourself here, but merely ask blunt questions of posters, who innocently answer your questions, and then later use that same information to bludgeon them on the head, then that is an attack. Why do you do that? You can assume all you want about me, my parents, my grand parents, my sibling, my friends, etc., it's not relevant to my view and understanding of basic and simple morality. 'Basic and simple morality' is the easiest thing in the world to understand -- even 'sinners,' sociopaths and narcissists understand it, but fail to follow it. You may pride yourself on being better than other posters here, by your being moral, but basically and simply you are not a very nice person (where is your compassion?) to the people on these boards who are hurting and are vulnerable by allowing their actions to be judged by others... and yet... you don't give one iota of background information about yourself. Makes me wonder why?
giotto Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I am referring to your "troubles" and how you almost walked away from your marriage. we are in "limbo"... I just couldn't do it... staying for the kids... so, I suppose I'm still taken... Some people on this board have hinted at me being "spineless", so I suppose I'm not that normal then... but every situation is different and, although I consider myself "normal", it really depends on what you are "battling" against...
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 we are in "limbo"... I just couldn't do it... staying for the kids... so, I suppose I'm still taken... Some people on this board have hinted at me being "spineless", so I suppose I'm not that normal then... but every situation is different and, although I consider myself "normal", it really depends on what you are "battling" against... You're normal, don't worry. Being called "spineless" is nothing. I've been called much worse. Just look at the post right above yours specifically about me. Just that one post right above yours would make being called "spineless" almost like being called "sinless."
Athena Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 You're normal, don't worry. Being called "spineless" is nothing. I've been called much worse. Just look at the post right above yours specifically about me. Just that one post right above yours would make being called "spineless" almost like being called "sinless." Black, all I wish for you is to understand Empathy, since you now have had a small taste of what you have dished out to others on the boards... here's hoping you can grow, learn -->possible if you see/feel your mistakes. Plenty posters on these boards have been offended and insulted by you (under your previous moniker's, now all banned). It's not a very nice feeling, is it?
BlackWhite Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Black, all I wish for you is to understand Empathy, since you now have had a small taste of what you have dished out to others on the boards... here's hoping you can grow, learn -->possible if you see/feel your mistakes. Correct me if I am wrong. The meaning of empathy is when you put yourself in other's situation, right? If that's the case, I cannot relate to people choosing to cheat and sneak around to motels to have sex behind their own spouse's back and risking health, death, destruction of family, shame, etc. Am I judging these low moral people? Maybe. There is nothing wrong with judgment. We use judgment to make every decision in our life. Judgment is what keeps us from commiting crimes and making bad choices. Before you come to the conclusion that I have no sympathy or empathy whatsoever, but merely a walking shell with no souls or heart, you can't be more wrong. I don't have to elaborate what I do (from empathy and heart) in real life to you.
RedDevil66 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I've met some VERY shady men. Not sure what my vibe is, but they come up to me and are all pretty much the same..........losers! I met my BF on line. He's a nice guy but has a lot of issues. I think when you're meeting men when you're in your 40's, it's impossible to meet anyone w/out baggage and issues. Be alone or accept some issues is how I need to be
Athena Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 How eloquent. Black watch it, your slip is showing ... funny thing is YOU are the poster who ordinarily only posts one or two rude sentences, so no need to point to my laconic response. You said you did not wish to "elaborate what (you) do in real life"... so... as you wish...or were you hoping for an argument to coax out 'your story"?
Athena Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Black if you want more attention then by all means start up your own thread. No need to attempt an insult to get more words to be eloquently written to you just for stating you don't wish to elaborate your thoughts in the first place...
BlackWhite Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Black if you want more attention then by all means start up your own thread. No need to attempt an insult to get more words to be eloquently written to you just for stating you don't wish to elaborate your thoughts in the first place... Hater!
BlackWhite Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Black watch it, your slip is showing ... funny thing is YOU are the poster who ordinarily only posts one or two rude sentences, so no need to point to my laconic response. You said you did not wish to "elaborate what (you) do in real life"... so... as you wish...or were you hoping for an argument to coax out 'your story"? FYI, my screen name is not Black, it's BlackWhite. Get it right!
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