bergeron Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 My girlfriend of three months broke up with me last week. I haven't contacted her but I'm feeling miserable, depressed and dying to talk to her about how and why she did it. There was no discussion at the time -- just a bitter comment from her "lose my number" to which I said fine. This took place during an argument. I posted earlier here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t194923/ I really feel like calling, but pride and self-respect have stopped me so far.
Author bergeron Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 with "how are you?" not sure what to do
LostInLimbo Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 My girlfriend of three months broke up with me last week. I haven't contacted her but I'm feeling miserable, depressed and dying to talk to her about how and why she did it. There was no discussion at the time -- just a bitter comment from her "lose my number" to which I said fine. This took place during an argument. I posted earlier here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t194923/ I really feel like calling, but pride and self-respect have stopped me so far. Hi Bergeron, not sure if my earlier posts will help you as guidance, but I would stay NC, as it burned me, not saying it will happen to you, we are all different, I felt I got so close, but lost everything feeling worse then when it first happened...and she just textd you "How are you?" damn we must have dated the same one, or sisters, thats why my first NC was broken by me....lol Hope all works for you LiL
Thaddeus Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 with "how are you?" not sure what to do Do nothing. No response. Nobody but her can be sure if she's truly interested in talking again, or is just playing mind-games with you. I suspect it's the latter, but who knows? NC all the way, my friend. Stay strong. I know it feels terrible but it really is the only way to move forward.
Author bergeron Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 thanks to both of you. i didn't respond -- but this is really tough. I really do want to talk about what happened and ask her how she could have been so cold.
LostInLimbo Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 thanks to both of you. i didn't respond -- but this is really tough. I really do want to talk about what happened and ask her how she could have been so cold. Hi Bergeron, simple fact is, she was cold and you may never get the truth, worse case you may not get the answer your looking for, so I wouldn't bother, becuase it may put you right back to square one, the NC you have worked so hard at, to accomplish and have gotten so far with...take it from me, it gets better and easier, but I realize there are still times of weakness, emotionally, as I have them to...but you respond, you boost her ego... LiL
Thaddeus Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 thanks to both of you. i didn't respond -- but this is really tough. I really do want to talk about what happened and ask her how she could have been so cold. You've done the right thing, but you already know that anyway. Who knows how she could have been so cold? And, more to the point, what does it matter? I know there's this mythical thing called "closure" (and it IS a myth, by the way) but the fact is that she did what she did and that's the end of it. Thank goodness you found out she could be so cold when you did, rather than after you were married for X years!
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